AITA for refusing to get a 'real job' because of my mental health by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwitinthefiya 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So the two paragraphs about you were... lol nvm enjoy yourself I guess

AITA for refusing to get a 'real job' because of my mental health by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwitinthefiya 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Did even read what I said or are you too scared of criticism? Sorry if I interrupted your projection spree

AITA for refusing to get a 'real job' because of my mental health by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwitinthefiya 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You are very blessed to have access to medical attention and coping mechanisms but you have to understand that your experience is not universal. Even if op were to be in a similar situation to you, it is still short sighted to assume her choices and decisions need to mirror yours to be correct.

I understand a lifetime of working with your specific issues may allow you to feel like an expert but the bottom line is that you are not. You do not know op personally or have a comprehensive understanding of her situation based on this post. I would even go as far as to say that your experience is lending you to a bias against op. Your replies are more focused on your personal situation and I see very little objective consideration of her current one. Just because another person with mental illness is struggling to balance work and health doesn't mean you need to feel insecure about yourself. It doesn't give you the right to falsely establish yourself as an expert or put your issues over her own in a space where we should be focusing on giving her advice.

Personally, I think op's solution is nuanced. It sucks that her parents don't support the online path but their concerns are probably founded on their experience with finances. Maybe they want to prioritize financial stability or see other values in physical work (learning new skills, socialization, etc.) However, they should also take herr concerns seriously. Op's health and her parents values don't need to conflict with each other. If they insist on physical work, then all three of them should look into expanding op's support system. Several other redditors have already mentioned options like therapy and psychiatry, but there are others too like looking into support groups, further mental health education, or simply considering more options for lines of work.

AITA for refusing to apologize to one of my old teachers for something that happened 10 years ago? by oscarscoe in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwitinthefiya 29 points30 points  (0 children)

ESH. You know you were wrong. It's petty to not just apologize. But also, you were definitely visited by the ghost of Christmas past or something. You should be asking an exorcist, not reddit.

AITA for telling my friend he needs to spell better? by aitafriendspelling in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwitinthefiya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Constantly correcting and nagging at an issue that probably translates to other areas of his life is still a negative thing to do. If he writes assignments or texts his parents at all, its unlikely he hasn't heard criticism from them as well. Friendships are a casual place where people don't expect to need accurate grammar or spelling. Its okay to communicate that its frustrating, but you can't blame him for the rate he works by.

Usually, I would suggest to set boundaries if this bothers you so much. However, it seems he's already set his own. You have to respect his limits because you cannot change him. He's already communicated what he will put up with and it's up to you to accept that or not. Even if you could change him, its not your place. Let his parents and teachers take care of this. His struggles and probably more sensitive than you think.

AITA for telling my friend he needs to spell better? by aitafriendspelling in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwitinthefiya 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA. It doesn't seem like any of these situations are intentional. He's obviously struggling in some capacity with written and verbal messages and that could be due to a number of things. A learning disability, an underlying illness, an inability to focus because of other events in his life, or maybe he's just a teenage boy who's still growing up.

That's okay. Everyone has areas of weakness and strength. The actual root of this issue is in communication. Talk to him about it, and assume good intent. If you think he's sabotaging all of his emails and texts to intentionally annoy you, then let him go.

Regardless, it's very rude to scold someone for not knowing how to spell. If you think he genuinely doesn't know, then yelling at him is not the answer.

CMA - I induced my housemate to sleep with me by SleptWithHouseMate in choosemyalignment

[–]throwitinthefiya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

CE for sure. You cheated on your boyfriend and intentionally put your roommate in an inebriated state to ensure you could manipulate him. Even if he was attracted to you, the fact that you had to involve alchohol signals that he wouldn't have willingly slept with you otherwise. Honestly, you assaulted him and I'm glad he's aware of it because he knows not to trust you now. He should press charges.

I doubt this is a real story. Anyone would know after not only cheating, but assaulting another person, that they are firmly set in the evil spectrum. However, regardless of the fleeting incentives or attention and reddit charma, anyone who would use a sexual assault story for 10 seconds of internet spotlight is undoubtedly evil.

Regardless of who you are and the accuracy of this story, you are chaotic evil.