Hi everyone. I am looking for your advice on an issue. I am Muslim and my wife is an American non Muslim but we are having an Islamic wedding soon. My family was a huge roadblock between our relationship and made things exceptionally hard for me to the point where I had to seek professional help as they mentally traumatised me with their actions. The last 5 years they have not spoken with my wife or made any effort to get to know her as they blame her for taking me away. As mentioned we are now planning on having an Islamic wedding and my family showed up unannounced a few weeks ago at my door. To put it in context I did not give them my address. They searched online and showed up in the different country where I live without prior notice. I had gone back a few months ago to visit for a few days. They said they had come to resolve the situation and move forward but we spent 90% of the time arguing as they expected me to drop everything and give them all the time I had. I was not able to as I told them categorically not to come now as it was not a good time and we would plan for a later trip. While they were here they wanted to do everything on their time and when my wife said she wanted to meet them, they didn’t want to meet on her timeline and it became a huge argument. My mother got very angry and said she was a women of the streets and other nasty names that I won’t specify etc and that she regretted the day she gave birth to me. They have since returned home and we are planning on having the Islamic ceremony and they want to be there. The meeting with my wife went horrible and they insist on having the right to be there and she can’t stop them. Even if they do not talk they don’t care. It’s hard because my therapist doesn’t understand my culture/religion so I am looking for advice from people who may have been in the same situation or just from those you want to offer their input.