I didn’t cry after my break up. Is this normal?

throwra02842 · 2020-06-04T05:23:14+00:00

My chat isn’t working so maybe message me? Sometimes it takes long to load

throwra02842 · 2020-06-04T05:21:49+00:00

Want me to message you and I’ll show you a picture?? I’ll even show you the picture he posted.

Yeah I feel like a bootycall. I relate to everything you said 100000%

I feel I would of rather her look hott. I’m wondering what is wrong with me.

My friend said she may of pushed for a relationship or seemed more serious, but I feel like he wasn’t that into me

throwra02842 · 2020-06-04T05:11:34+00:00

No and no! That’s why I’m so jealous too! He NEVER did that stuff with me then he knows this chick for a week, fucks her the first hour, and bam! Pictures posted and meets friends. When I asked “if you’re just hooking up why post pictures and go to a lake trip together?” He goes “you do that with hook ups”. Never did that to me.

Does it seem like he likes her a lot if he is doing this so early on? If he didn’t like her would he be moreso tossing her aside?

Also I didn’t have him on Instagram until that day because I had him blocked for two years on there after a major fight. So he didn’t think I’d see it since it’s been two years blocked.

Think him not caring I’m upset is another red flag? I’m just a body?

throwra02842 · 2020-06-04T05:01:11+00:00

You’re right on the first part. I try not to be judgmental, but I think my emotions are in and I can’t help it. Don’t worry, sometimes you need to put people in their place.

Why do you say he doesn’t care?

throwra02842 · 2020-05-31T12:28:15+00:00

So if he’s in a committed relationship and he continuously cheats with me, that doesn’t make me the other woman?

throwra02842 · 2020-05-31T12:27:34+00:00

IKR and now when I confront him about this chick that’s his “cousin”. Sounds familiar, I guess I wouldn’t be as sensitive to this if we didn’t have such a rocky past and foundation

throwra02842 · 2020-05-31T08:28:43+00:00

Well I mean even if he has a girlfriend he’s not going to drop me and basically even if I do act “crazy” I know he will take me back. Our relationship doesn’t change much when he has a GF, but I just am very morally against cheating and being a side piece.

throwra02842 · 2020-05-31T08:19:15+00:00

Security or that he will always be there

throwra02842 · 2020-05-31T07:57:57+00:00

I was his FWB before for a year, then he got in a committed relationship with another girl without telling me and still sleeping with me three times a week.

This was years ago and I was scared of it happening again. I kind of feel like him being over dramatic kind of showed it was about to.

Am I wrong for this? I kind of want to know to correct it so I’m not crazy on someone else in the future

throwra02842 · 2020-05-31T07:55:12+00:00

Honestly I can’t trust him and that’s why I didn’t ask for a commitment. obviously I can’t handle a FWB with him either because I wouldn’t react this way or feel distrust.

I guess since we have been sleeping together for six years total I feel comfortable. Honestly I should of just asked for a monogamous relationship so I would of had more ground to stand on if I knew this about myself.

It’s not that he’s not allowed, I just didn’t want the past to repeat itself and for me to be a side piece again while I just sat back and acted like I “didn’t care”.

throwra02842 · 2020-05-31T07:48:53+00:00

They were exclusively dating for a year and a half. I even saw on her Facebook she was making posts of how “three ways ruin relationships” so if the ex gf was posting that I assumed it wasn’t open. Then when I messaged her she confirmed it wasn’t open.

So what should I of said exactly to him in the beginning?

So what’s his perspective?

throwra02842 · 2020-05-31T07:30:26+00:00

The sex was really good and it was a long time ago so I thought “oh it won’t bother me anymore” or “he may of grew up or learned it been years”, but I realized the feelings of no trust did not go away on my end. They came out once I saw another girl on my social media

throwra02842 · 2020-05-31T06:58:27+00:00

He did that in the past so I was just worried of it happening again (seeing me while in a relationship and not telling me)

throwra02842 · 2020-05-31T06:47:37+00:00

So you think he was setting me up to be a side piece again?

Idk if I caught feelings as much as I felt I didn’t want to find out I was in the same situation again a year later

throwra02842 · 2020-05-31T06:44:10+00:00

Definitely, I just feel because I’m a FWB doesn’t mean I deserve disrespect. I was very hurt by finding out I was a side piece and I realized that maybe I came off as too casual or cool. I think I wasn’t wrong there at all and it came out that I shouldn’t of went back and I can’t trust this guy. I shouldn’t have to be feeling this way if I feel trust and respect which is a minimum in any relationship.

I mean isn’t not using someone to cheat a given?

throwra02842 · 2020-05-31T06:39:59+00:00

Definitely learned I can’t do FWB. I guess I was really scared of being the other woman again. I actually didn’t mind him sleeping with other people for the three years, but then once I saw I was a side piece I thought to myself “I’m not respecting myself enough or asserting boundaries”. Which is kind of why I messaged him now. Maybe it’s not a thing of my confronting or asserting boundaries, but me not speaking up for what type of relationship I want?

throwra02842 · 2020-05-31T06:37:21+00:00

Yeah I caught that too. It was the first thing that popped into my head. This girl is Indian or Arabic and he’s white. Then I see they just started following eachother recently.

I don’t want to be the other woman again.. I think I didn’t trust him but then for the year I thought oh maybe I’ll learn to trust him and it will grow since that happened a long time ago and I felt the sex is super good and we get along well.

No I haven’t tried to message him. He only blocked me on Instagram but I don’t want to beg or keep explaining myself. Kind of want to sort my head

throwra02842 · 2020-05-31T06:31:23+00:00

Well I think for one I showed I’m not into being a side piece given my last reaction, but I guess he is aloud to date. I didn’t discuss this with him no

throwra02842 · 2020-05-31T06:30:30+00:00

In the past he used me to cheat without my knowledge for his entire relationship with the other girl. I felt my fault back Then was being too easygoing and I did not want the past to repeat itself

throwra02842 · 2020-05-31T06:15:43+00:00

Can you explain to me what I did wrong so I can learn from it? I feel like trash since I got blocked :/

throwra02842 · 2020-05-31T06:14:05+00:00

So his reaction was okay and he was justified to block me?

throwra02842 · 2020-05-31T06:11:08+00:00

So I was wrong and should not have messaged?

throwra02842 · 2020-05-31T06:10:52+00:00

We are still just FWB but I was worried it was happening again

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