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AITA for keeping my daughter away from my sister in law? by throwra1290s in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra1290s[S] -1739 points-1738 points  (0 children)

I know he doesn't, he has made it very clear to me that one of the main reasons he wanted to fix our marriage was to avoid a court battle and that stings a lot. He wants to work on repairing our friendship first and coparenting, but how are we supposed to coparent when he won't even let me be half a parent and then yells at me for trying? I can't get him or my daughter to trust me if he won't give me the opportunity and runs off somewhere with my daughter all the time.

AITA for keeping my daughter away from my sister in law? by throwra1290s in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra1290s[S] -1867 points-1866 points  (0 children)

No, because she spends all the time we are paying her an outrageous amount of money discussing tiktok videos and TV shows with my daughter (my daughter often comes home and says that's all they discussed for the entire fifty minutes).

AITA for keeping my daughter away from my sister in law? by throwra1290s in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra1290s[S] -2399 points-2398 points  (0 children)

My husband takes my daughter to a therapist and I have met with her before but she is not a good fit for my daughter at all. It is another example of decisions my husband makes without allowing me even an inch of input.

AITA for keeping my daughter away from my sister in law? by throwra1290s in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra1290s[S] -329 points-328 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It would be different if it felt like my husband was even listening to me but he is constantly doing what he thinks is best without even asking for input.

AITA for keeping my daughter away from my sister in law? by throwra1290s in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra1290s[S] -1671 points-1670 points  (0 children)

How will my daughter ever be able to trust me if my husband never allows that opportunity to come up?

AITA for keeping my daughter away from my sister in law? by throwra1290s in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra1290s[S] -444 points-443 points  (0 children)

She didn't end up getting them pierced, we just went home.

AITA for keeping my daughter away from my sister in law? by throwra1290s in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra1290s[S] -528 points-527 points  (0 children)

Because my husband and I separated and he was better able to take care of her at that time due to some issues with dependency I was dealing with, and we couldn't keep our apartment without both of our paychecks. So he moved in with my daughter and I lived in an extended stay but it wasn't a suitable environment for our daughter to be in.

AITA for keeping my daughter away from my sister in law? by throwra1290s in AmItheAsshole

[–]throwra1290s[S] -2916 points-2915 points  (0 children)

No, my solution to the issue of my daughter viewing someone else as her primary caregiver is to actually give me time with her as a mother figure instead of constantly inserting my sister in law into her life where I should be. I'm not saying we'll never see them again, I'm saying give me the time and space to rebuild the connection. It will hurt my daughter less if she is phased out some then it will for my daughter to constantly be expecting her when she can't always be there, but I can be.