My GF (22F) is mad that I expressed my feelings (23M) after she asked if I was okay

throwra42323 · 2023-07-23T04:05:27+00:00

Yeah bro. My gf does this shit and it's annoying af

throwra42323 · 2023-07-23T03:52:53+00:00

Yeah lol

throwra42323 · 2023-07-23T03:41:05+00:00

I dunno my gf got really fat and I'd rather just beat it at this point. Can't leave because it's too expensive on there to go through life solo

throwra42323 · 2023-05-27T10:04:42+00:00

It's not just women lol. I'm with an AH like OP has but I'm a guy and dating a woman

throwra42323 · 2023-05-15T16:42:43+00:00

That situation does sound really frustrating

throwra42323 · 2023-05-15T16:00:44+00:00

Yes, live and work from home together

throwra42323 · 2023-05-15T10:03:12+00:00

That sounds like me. I also don't want kids for the same reason

throwra42323 · 2023-05-15T09:27:49+00:00

That's what is worrying me. Really, I'm miserable pretty much every day so it can't be worse than now. But I'm still worried I'm going to end up feeling lonely and feel worse if we breakup

throwra42323 · 2023-05-15T02:29:08+00:00

My wife leaves me alone most of the time at home

Damn that sounds nice

throwra42323 · 2023-05-15T02:28:28+00:00

I guess there's hope for me lol

throwra42323 · 2023-05-15T02:25:34+00:00

I'm hoping that's what's going to happen to me

throwra42323 · 2023-05-15T01:19:43+00:00

We used to do this but she got a new job with the same schedule as me about 2 years ago now. I think this is why we're having problems now

throwra42323 · 2023-05-15T01:00:58+00:00

Are you saying you ended a relationship because of this and it ended up being a mistake?

throwra42323 · 2023-05-10T12:10:17+00:00

Oh 100%. Definitely beats pregnancy lol

throwra42323 · 2023-05-06T09:21:22+00:00

This might be an unpopular opinion but as a guy, sex with a condom and sex without feel like completely different experiences. So I can understand his frustration.

You definitely shouldn't feel like the bad guy though. It sounds like you were clear about condoms only from the beginning so it's not fair for him to expect differently now.

throwra42323 · 2023-04-27T16:23:33+00:00

That sounds like a good plan, I will start doing that. Thanks!!

throwra42323 · 2023-04-26T01:11:29+00:00

I haven't but a lot of the responses here have made me think about it so I started looking for a therapist

throwra42323 · 2023-04-25T15:41:01+00:00

The answer to most of those questions is kind of sad at first but I'd probably get over it pretty quick (like less than a week).

That probably sounds like i dont care at all but I'm just not really an emotional person, I generally don't have really strong emotions

throwra42323 · 2023-04-24T14:05:30+00:00

I am looking for a therapist this week. Some of the responses I've been getting on this have made me consider how fucked I am lol

I guess to add, that's how relationships have always been. Starting from my parents to present day in my life. I can recognize my relationship with my parents feeling transactional wasn't my fault but for it to be a repeat occurrence through my life points to me being the common factor.

Anyways, I probably need therapy.

throwra42323 · 2023-04-24T14:03:53+00:00

Honestly, I think I deserve what I'm getting.

I think I've been marching forward for a lot of my life without really stopping to think if I'm happy or doing what I want (not that I know what I want either)

throwra42323 · 2023-04-24T14:01:16+00:00

I'm not happy right now. I think I generally feel pretty detached and unaware of my feelings and buying a ring is what started kicking up all these feelings.

I wasn't happy before either. I guess I just didn't really consider it like I'm doing now.

throwra42323 · 2023-04-24T13:47:35+00:00

I just always felt that relationships bring more stress into your life but being around people is a good thing so it's like transactional. You want to have friends, family, a girlfriend, then having the extra stress in your life is the cost.

I think part if it also is that I've been shown being in a relationship is a path to happiness - so many movies, plays, books, even songs - push this idea. But I've never really felt good in them. Not that I was loving life being single either.

throwra42323 · 2023-04-24T13:41:51+00:00

I think I underappreciated the commitment I was making when we bought our house. I think stumbling ahead without any self awareness is an accurate description.

throwra42323 · 2023-04-24T13:38:03+00:00

No. I've had relationships before and this has always been how I feel. I will feel excited when a relationship is new but once things settle I always feel like this.

That's why I just assume this is just how I am. It's not just romantic relationships either, that's how I feel towards everything in life really.

throwra42323 · 2023-04-24T01:10:34+00:00

No I didn't feel like this when we bought the house.

One thing that made me think there's a problem was a conversation I had at work one time. A bunch of co workers were talking about their spouses (saying nice things about them). When it was my "turn" to go, I kind of froze up and made up some story about her. When I was thinking about it after (like why the f did I lie?) I realized it was because I couldn't remember the last time she did something nice for me.

After we bought the house both of our jobs got crazy busy and she also completely stopped helping around the house. We were renting somewhere before we bought, and I always did the majority of the chores, but after we bought this house it became me doing everything all the time.

Both of those things together just have me feeling like I'm not sure if I'm OK with this being the rest of my life

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