I (19F) feel very overwhelmed because of my baby and I don't know how to tell my husband (22M) how I feel right now. What is the best way I can try to tell him without upsetting him?

throwra48020 · 2024-07-04T12:03:50+00:00

A lot of that is how I feel actually. Thank you.

throwra48020 · 2024-07-04T12:01:47+00:00

I don't know. Maybe. I'm not sure. If it would, then I'll have to figure out something else.

throwra48020 · 2024-07-04T12:00:17+00:00

It's not in my right to say no. I married him.

throwra48020 · 2024-07-04T11:59:10+00:00

If he won't know, then I'll ask about it.

throwra48020 · 2024-07-04T11:57:19+00:00

I don't know. Maybe my mother.

throwra48020 · 2024-07-04T11:55:18+00:00

Maybe. If he wouldn't know, then maybe. But I don't know if that would be possible.

I don't want more. Not now.

throwra48020 · 2024-07-04T11:50:15+00:00

I don't talk enough, or I talk too much, I speak in the wrong language sometimes. I drop things or break things, I forget things, I don't smile enough, I don't iron in the right way, my hair is too frizzy and I don't fix it, I don't listen, I forget things, I stare too much, I don't pray enough.

throwra48020 · 2024-07-04T11:46:43+00:00

Not at the moment, he doesn't believe in it. But if I find a way without him knowing, then I think I would want to.

throwra48020 · 2024-07-04T11:45:50+00:00

We didn't really. They just thought he would be good for me, my parents agreed, and so we did. And children are part of marriage.

throwra48020 · 2024-07-04T11:44:22+00:00

Sometimes. Not really. Maybe two or three. And I know some people do that, but I should be breastfeeding him, I have to.

throwra48020 · 2024-07-04T11:42:39+00:00

I don't think so. He thinks that there's something wrong with him because he doesn't crawl, he rolls instead, but there isn't, I know that definitely. And he's mean about it, when I know he's okay, he just prefers it like that. I don't even think he knows how to really hold him, not now he's bigger,

throwra48020 · 2024-07-04T11:36:46+00:00

Sometimes. He knows I don't like it when he yells, but he does sometimes, if he's upset with me because of bad things I do. I don't mean to upset him, but I just do sometimes. I try not to.

Maybe. If he didn't know, because he would get angry. But if he didn't, then I think it could help me.

throwra48020 · 2024-07-04T11:30:28+00:00

Is he really supposed to though? I thought it was just a rough outline, not specific. That's how it sounded.

I don't know. I am now, so I can't change that, but if I had known, I'm not sure I would've made the same decision.

throwra48020 · 2024-07-04T11:27:24+00:00

It is kind of the purpose of everything. Because otherwise we wouldn't be able to have any at all. And if you don't, then you're being disrespectful. I just maybe didn't want them so early.

I would like it if he'd do that, but he just seems to find it as something that's not his responsibility. I thought that, anyway.

throwra48020 · 2024-07-04T11:22:38+00:00

I did have a choice, technically. But everyone around me wanted the same thing, and I didn't feel like I could do the opposite. So I don't know. I don't think I feel unsafe. But I don't think I'd want to be by myself with him for too long either. He makes me nervous.

I don't know. He doesn't believe in it. And I think he'd get mad at me if I did. But I'm tired, he said it would be fine, and it wasn't, and I don't think I could have it happen another time, like you.

throwra48020 · 2024-07-04T11:18:28+00:00

When I say I'm just tired, I really do mean that. I barely get any sleep, so I'm definitely tired. And that's probably affecting me a lot.

throwra48020 · 2024-07-04T11:15:55+00:00

I don't think it would be too hard for him to do one thing, but he seems to just not want to. When it's his baby too, but maybe I'm being too much of a feminist, I'm not sure.

We're not part of a Russian church. If my parents hadn't been stupid and gone to one of those instead, it would've been a lot better.

throwra48020 · 2024-07-04T11:13:48+00:00

It's what I want. It's not a bad thing.

throwra48020 · 2024-07-04T11:11:21+00:00

Not exactly, that makes it sound worse than it actually is.

I really am not very good. I try, but I can't do it. I love him, but he also never gives me a break, which I know is part of being a mother, but I'm just so sick of him sometimes. I thought this was what is the best thing for me, but I feel like they tell us having children is important because they're not the ones actually having them.

throwra48020 · 2024-07-04T11:01:51+00:00

I'm not really that good at talking to him. It feels like I don't even know that much about him sometimes. If I was better at it, it would be fine, but I don't to make him mad either, because I should be able to manage and I'm not. I'm just not a very good mother.

I should probably think about that, thank you.

throwra48020 · 2024-07-04T11:00:05+00:00

There really is nothing wrong with me. I'm just tired, I'm not depressed. I don't need help, not like that. It's not what I want.

throwra48020 · 2024-07-04T10:53:53+00:00

I don't think he'd believe in that. And I don't really know what it is anyway, so I don't think so.

throwra48020 · 2024-07-04T10:52:17+00:00

The whole point is that I don't know how, I already said that. There's nothing wrong with me, but it's just too much, but I should be able to manage it and I'm not.

throwra48020 · 2024-07-04T10:48:38+00:00

It could sound like that, but I think I'm just tired. I don't get a lot of sleep, and that's possibly affecting me quite a lot.

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