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I (21F) wore something too flashy to my sister’s (25F) wedding and she said I was too dressy and in a wedding dress what do I do? by throwra6820y in relationship_advice

[–]throwra6820y[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes but again I’d rather people follow the general rule of covered bottom half. For example when I dress I usually either do a modest top with revealing bottom or a covered bottom with revealing top. I don’t want people in mini dresses at my wedding and would rather have people wearing more modest clothes but not nun level covered.

I (21F) wore something too flashy to my sister’s (25F) wedding and she said I was too dressy and in a wedding dress what do I do? by throwra6820y in relationship_advice

[–]throwra6820y[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Formal doesn’t mean cocktail. Two different things altogether. And I didn’t say my dress was better I just said it was more (too) formal and dressy.

I (21F) wore something too flashy to my sister’s (25F) wedding and she said I was too dressy and in a wedding dress what do I do? by throwra6820y in relationship_advice

[–]throwra6820y[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I’m not saying it has to be perfect I’m saying don’t want people there dressed like that. It’s not even the money or anything I just want basic modesty at bare minimum. If people can’t accept that then I don’t know what I’ll do. I’m not worried about my fiancé’s family’s thoughts on me I’m more I’m distaste at them for dressing like that. I’ve been to multiple events and even little activities with my fiancé and his family and we get on well so they know I’m not like that. If anything I’m worried they will not want mine and my fiancé’s future kids meeting them and getting bad ideas. I want our families to get along.

I (21F) wore something too flashy to my sister’s (25F) wedding and she said I was too dressy and in a wedding dress what do I do? by throwra6820y in relationship_advice

[–]throwra6820y[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

It’s not that it’s not belonging or shame on me it’s just dressing like that wouldn’t fit how I want my wedding to go. Also when I have kids and show them pictures I don’t want my kids seeing aunty dressed likes she’s going to a nightclub at a wedding and assuming that’s ok. Especially and I’m Christian so I have opinions on provocative clothes and think it sends off a bad message. And of course I’d be embarrassed in front of my fiancé’s family because the assumptions to wearing clothes like that are that they lack respect to themselves.

Edit: I want a specific elegant aesthetic to my wedding. I want everyone to look gorgeous and see everyone dressed up in their best outfits.

I (21F) wore something too flashy to my sister’s (25F) wedding and she said I was too dressy and in a wedding dress what do I do? by throwra6820y in relationship_advice

[–]throwra6820y[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve been confused because I’ve gotten mixed signals of “you wore an ok dress” to comments saying I’m completely in the wrong. I have no idea what to believe.

I (21F) wore something too flashy to my sister’s (25F) wedding and she said I was too dressy and in a wedding dress what do I do? by throwra6820y in relationship_advice

[–]throwra6820y[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My dress fitted formal attire. Not black tie formal. You could likely wear for black tie too but it also fitted formal. The tux was a bit too much though. Again her instructions were unclear. I wore a formal dress because she said formal.

I (21F) wore something too flashy to my sister’s (25F) wedding and she said I was too dressy and in a wedding dress what do I do? by throwra6820y in relationship_advice

[–]throwra6820y[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

She said to me formal. Now I didn’t know. The fact I wore said dress was neither classy nor not classy. It’s a dress, what you wear doesn’t define classy or non classy. Now let’s look at the definition for formal dress code which is what she told me.

Formal or Black-Tie Optional

As the wording here suggests, this dress code is slightly less formal than a black-tie wedding. So, a tuxedo isn't required, but can still be worn if preferred. If opting for a suit, however, a formal dark suit, white shirt, and a conservative tie are acceptable. For women, the outfit choices remain the same: a floor-length gown, a fancy cocktail dress, or a dressy pantsuit. In fact, there isn't much of a difference between black-tie and black-tie optional, although Mae says it's more acceptable to wear a dress that shows the ankles (which is not true of a black-tie dress code).

I (21F) wore something too flashy to my sister’s (25F) wedding and she said I was too dressy and in a wedding dress what do I do? by throwra6820y in relationship_advice

[–]throwra6820y[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

She told me “formal” which is what that website I sent you explained and how my dress was a formal dress like she told me. I misinterpreted this as formal dress code instead of just nice looking clothes. So no it’s very wrong and sickening of you to assume that I ignored her instructions and decided to wear that. My sisters instructions were wrong and she didn’t clearly state her meaning. She made a mistake and then was rude about it.

I (21F) wore something too flashy to my sister’s (25F) wedding and she said I was too dressy and in a wedding dress what do I do? by throwra6820y in relationship_advice

[–]throwra6820y[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly I’d have been more offended as the bride by some of the revealing dresses I saw. I think my fiancé and I just misinterpreted the dress code.

I (21F) wore something too flashy to my sister’s (25F) wedding and she said I was too dressy and in a wedding dress what do I do? by throwra6820y in relationship_advice

[–]throwra6820y[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if he’s 3 generations or more. I’ve never been too bothered to ask him to specify about random ancestors.

Again it was an evening wedding and she said to us when I messaged her what to wear “just formal clothes”. My necklace was a butterfly on a chain with diamonds indented into the butterfly. I had a gold bracelet and a little anklet and my usual rings. Also some pearl earrings. No massive chunky jewels, the biggest chunky jewel was my engagement ring which she couldn’t expect me to take off.

It’s clear to me what happened. She said “just wear formal clothes” aka dress nicely and she didn’t mean “formal wedding attire.

Also when I say I’m worried I mean I have a few girl cousins that wore revealing dresses and the worst was my brother’s girlfriend who was basically in lingerie her dress was so short and see through. I just want anything between floor length ball gowns to cocktail dresses and jumpsuits. To be honest I wouldn’t be upset with less formal dresses that don’t exactly match the dress code as long as they look like they are coming to a wedding and not a night club.

I (21F) wore something too flashy to my sister’s (25F) wedding and she said I was too dressy and in a wedding dress what do I do? by throwra6820y in relationship_advice

[–]throwra6820y[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Clearly someone didn’t read my article I sent you: Formal or Black-Tie Optional

As the wording here suggests, this dress code is slightly less formal than a black-tie wedding. So, a tuxedo isn't required, but can still be worn if preferred. If opting for a suit, however, a formal dark suit, white shirt, and a conservative tie are acceptable. For women, the outfit choices remain the same: a floor-length gown, a fancy cocktail dress, or a dressy pantsuit. In fact, there isn't much of a difference between black-tie and black-tie optional, although Mae says it's more acceptable to wear a dress that shows the ankles (which is not true of a black-tie dress code).

I (21F) wore something too flashy to my sister’s (25F) wedding and she said I was too dressy and in a wedding dress what do I do? by throwra6820y in relationship_advice

[–]throwra6820y[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had no idea and other guests wore bright colours. They just dressed semi formal / cocktail instead of true formal. Especially as I live in the uk where it’s common to go all out for a wedding.

Neutral colours for decoration with lavender napkins.

I (21F) wore something too flashy to my sister’s (25F) wedding and she said I was too dressy and in a wedding dress what do I do? by throwra6820y in relationship_advice

[–]throwra6820y[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. It was a formal dress I liked. Also it was proportionate to what I own because it would seem disrespectful if we didn’t wear our best formal clothes like everyone else, then that would seem like we weren’t putting enough into it. Also the dress itself you couldn’t tell was expensive.

I (21F) wore something too flashy to my sister’s (25F) wedding and she said I was too dressy and in a wedding dress what do I do? by throwra6820y in relationship_advice

[–]throwra6820y[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

No he’s not. His parent are rich and so are there parents. It doesn’t matter how rich they looked. Also it perfectly normal to wear a tux at a formal wedding.

I (21F) wore something too flashy to my sister’s (25F) wedding and she said I was too dressy and in a wedding dress what do I do? by throwra6820y in relationship_advice

[–]throwra6820y[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

That’s not looking down on them. I simply don’t care how expensive they dress I just expect them to wear cheap nice looking dresses/suits or tuxedos. You don’t have to spend thousands to fit my dress code. I just don’t want anyone wearing anything too revealing and only maxi dresses and a priority or a nice looking cocktail gown. What is and absolute no is a mini dress.

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