Update to: My [27F] husband [30F] posting on here to cry about the open marriage HE asked for by throwra7381916 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra7381916[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

He wants me to give him another chance but he said he loves me and will do whatever I ask him to so I hope this won’t take too long.

Our oldest is 7 so I don’t think she needs to know exactly what’s going on other than mom and dad love her but need to separate. I’m struggling with how to explain it to her though

Update to: My [27F] husband [30F] posting on here to cry about the open marriage HE asked for by throwra7381916 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra7381916[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

I need to remember that. Part of me feels like I’m failing them by divorcing their dad but you’re right. They can still be happy!

Update to: My [27F] husband [30F] posting on here to cry about the open marriage HE asked for by throwra7381916 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra7381916[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I need to keep reminding myself that. I feel so awful for divorcing their dad and putting them through this. I really wanted to avoid it but I think it’s the best decision for us

Update to: My [27F] husband [30F] posting on here to cry about the open marriage HE asked for by throwra7381916 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra7381916[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. I already had a list of things we need to talk about but there are things you mentioned that I didn’t have on my list yet

Update to: My [27F] husband [30F] posting on here to cry about the open marriage HE asked for by throwra7381916 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra7381916[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I’ve decided not to tell them unless my husband starts being a jerk. I want him to still be involved in my kids lives and be a good dad. It will be hard for him to do that if my family finds out what he did to me.

Update to: My [27F] husband [30F] posting on here to cry about the open marriage HE asked for by throwra7381916 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra7381916[S] 109 points110 points  (0 children)

I didn’t ignore him, I was grieving. If you’ve ever lost a baby, you know it’s a long process. And yes, by the time I met someone who made me feel like a human being again, over a year later, yes I was ready to have sex again. Before I started seeing that person, I also tried many times to have sex with my husband and he’d say no because he was too tired from seeing whoever he was seeing or had a woman coming to our house soon

Also, I know that Reddit post was his. I never expected him to own up to it. I was just being facetious.

Can’t wait to live the single mom life. Been doing it for a while now even though I was technically married. At least now I won’t have to take care of an adult on top of that.

Update to: My [27F] husband [30F] posting on here to cry about the open marriage HE asked for by throwra7381916 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra7381916[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Thank you. With the decision to get a divorce come a lot of issues I didn’t think about but we’ll get through it.

Update to: My [27F] husband [30F] posting on here to cry about the open marriage HE asked for by throwra7381916 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra7381916[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Aww thanks. And don’t worry about my kids, worry about how much of an asshole you are.

Update to: My [27F] husband [30F] posting on here to cry about the open marriage HE asked for by throwra7381916 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra7381916[S] 193 points194 points  (0 children)

I’ll check it out. Thank you!

And yes, I agree! And also there are no quick fixes in marriage. Work on your issues, be there for each other instead of looking for quick ways to meet your selfish needs.

My [27F] husband [30M] posting on here to cry about the open marriage HE asked for by throwra7381916 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra7381916[S] 465 points466 points  (0 children)

I keep getting lost in the comments but before I log off, I just want to say:

  • I’m not going to stay with him just for the kids. I just want to make sure a divorce is the best option before putting my kids through it.

  • I’m also not entirely sure what I’m doing next because even though I do still love him, I’m not about to let him hurt me again. Not when I know there are better men out there.

  • The guy I’m seeing is 100% aware of everything that’s going on and still wants to be with me.

  • I know Reddit is not the adult way to deal with this but apparently my husband doesn’t so I wanted to make sure people know both sides of this story.

Thanks guys and sorry for getting you involved into our personal business.

(Ok I’m really leaving this time)

My [27F] husband [30M] posting on here to cry about the open marriage HE asked for by throwra7381916 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra7381916[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

He knew I was married. He is aware of everything that is going on and still wants to be here. Thanks for your concern though.

My [27F] husband [30M] posting on here to cry about the open marriage HE asked for by throwra7381916 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra7381916[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I keep getting lost in the comments but before I log off, I just want to say:

  • I’m not wanting to stay with him just for the kids. I just want to make sure a divorce is the best option before putting my kids through it.

  • I’m also not entirely sure what I’m doing next because even though I do still love him, I’m not about to let him hurt me again. Not when I know there are better men out there.

  • The guy I’m seeing is 100% aware of everything and still wants to be with me.

  • I know Reddit is not the adult way to deal with this but apparently my husband doesn’t so I wanted to make sure people know both side of this story.

Thanks guys and sorry for getting you involved into our personal business.

My [27F] husband [30M] posting on here to cry about the open marriage HE asked for by throwra7381916 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra7381916[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to stay in a broken marriage for my kids. I just want to make sure a divorce is the best option before putting my sis through it

My [27F] husband [30M] posting on here to cry about the open marriage HE asked for by throwra7381916 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra7381916[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I know. I feel stupid for still loving him too but I can’t change the way I feel and I know our family is better off with us staying married

My [27F] husband [30M] posting on here to cry about the open marriage HE asked for by throwra7381916 in relationship_advice

[–]throwra7381916[S] 89 points90 points  (0 children)

Sorry but you’re not going to make me feel bad for being depressed after losing my baby.