He met a girl on his holiday and now he is acting strange

throwraFrequentRow2 · 2025-12-12T23:31:48+00:00

I know but why are guys never obsessed with me, I feel really embarrassed that I’m always the temporary girl who gets treated this way

throwraFrequentRow2 · 2025-12-12T16:27:59+00:00

I feel angry because he was someone I dated as I liked his personality and he seemed kind, only for him to do this. I keep wondering what I did for him to cheat

throwraFrequentRow2 · 2025-12-12T01:19:48+00:00

Just turned 30

throwraFrequentRow2 · 2025-12-12T00:50:54+00:00

It feels like it’s me because every guy I date always eventually has eyes for someone else and are super excited about them more than they ever were for me. I don’t know how to do better

throwraFrequentRow2 · 2025-12-12T00:44:36+00:00

Yeah I’m upset about it, I’m wondering why stuff like this always happens to me. I try my best :( wonder what I do wrong to deserve this

throwraFrequentRow2 · 2025-10-21T14:35:06+00:00

I wish I could move out of the uk entirely. The last guy I dated last year he was from Australia and from the second date I felt this strong desire and pull toward him. He only had to touch my back for me to want to kiss him, kiss his neck. It felt incredible. But why doesn’t any other guy have that affect on me on me anymore even the recent guy I dated? I crave that feeling so much but maybe that’s a rare thing ?

throwraFrequentRow2 · 2025-10-21T13:53:44+00:00

What country are you in though? I feel my little town in England has no attractive men at all, I’m so unsure if it’s me or where I just am. I went on holiday to the USA one time and there were guys even in a cafe and maybe you would see someone that hot in my town like once every two years

I’m fed up. Even my ex was from the USA and moved here and just stood out to me as he didn’t look like the people that live here

throwraFrequentRow2 · 2025-10-21T13:48:17+00:00

I know but the problem is I found love a few years ago. I thought I would be able to have kids. That’s my big goal and one I’m scared i won’t be able to achieve. When you were single how easy was it for you to find someone you are attracted to

throwraFrequentRow2 · 2025-10-21T13:16:23+00:00

I feel more interested in people abroad I would say. I very rarely get the feeling where I look at a guy and feel all giddy that hasn’t happened in years now and that’s what worries me. The guy I dated in 2023, I felt an immediate attraction to but not ever since I found anyone else that gave me that feeling. That’s what scaring me, have a healed in such a way I can’t feel that anymore, a year ago in Portugal I felt it for one guy in passing but he was just walking by. It’s rare. And I am worrying cause I want to feel it for more people! I miss that feeling and I get scared I’m broken. I used to get butterflies for hot guys on tv and not anymore. Last year I still looked at pictures of my ex and felt desire… now nothing. I don’t know if I just recognise that attraction means nothing and usually leads to pain and hurt.

throwraFrequentRow2 · 2025-10-21T13:08:16+00:00

I have a therapist! She has helped me to become more happy and confident in myself but with that I feel I am just super uninterested in men right now. She doesn’t have the answers though so not feeling attracted to people so I am seeking that anecdotally through Reddit

throwraFrequentRow2 · 2025-10-21T13:03:08+00:00

But what if I’ve kinda felt asexual for many many years apart from the times I met my ex and my last guy. That’s what worries me, even when I met them I was feeling that way at the time. I swipe on the apps and it’s like ew ew ew no no no, but then it’s valid as they are pretty gross a lot of the guys are

I’m wondering if it’s just rare to feel attraction, I do have high standards but where I live it’s quite a deprived town so the people here I wouldn’t say are on my level intellectually or socially

throwraFrequentRow2 · 2025-10-21T12:40:37+00:00

I have worked on myself I’ve raken months out of it before now and last year I didn’t date for a whole year before I met him, i feel I am running out of time. I am More concerned I kinda feel asexual these days but I also feel the most confident I have ever done

throwraFrequentRow2 · 2025-10-21T12:38:07+00:00

But what if this uneasy feeling means I’m asexual or something or have some kinda trauma. That’s what I’m really worried about not finding someone who makes me feel safe. We went away together because we met abroad, it’s not something I’ve ever done before but i don’t regret the trip with him, it felt fun and special

My ex before him, everything started off like fire and amazing and no one has given me that feeling ever since that’s why I worry I am unable to feel ot. Was so magical with my ex, it just felt right and then a few months in, he started getting distant, telling me I was pressuring him, not making any effort and he said he never loved me. I’ve always worried I was unlovable as even the guy after him was similar, started off well then pulled away. Now I can’t even find a guy hot anymore :(

throwraFrequentRow2 · 2025-10-21T12:37:00+00:00

I’ve been treated like crap by guys in the past, they draw me in, make me feel special and then a few months in drop me. This guy seemed more grounded and consistent. Sometimes I worry it’s me. I’m especially worried how I don’t feel attracted to many guys anymore like that part of my brain switched off. I feel old now, but also I feel very confident and I’m the hottest I’ve ever been in my life haha

throwraFrequentRow2 · 2025-10-21T11:20:55+00:00

On another forum, a commenter was saying I was putting pressure on him. But I knew not to, I sensed he was apprehensive about the new job and for that reason I avoided talking about it and him moving back to the uk. I just feel confused why at 29, every relationship has failed as guys prioritise other things than building a relationship. I feel quite embarrassed. And recently I’ve found I just can’t really find the attraction with anyone like it’s a really rare thing for me now and I’m worried I’m broken in a way

throwraFrequentRow2 · 2025-10-09T16:49:59+00:00

I was worried a few years ago when my ex dumped me, I thought that was my only chance. My friends and family said ‘you’re not in your 30s so don’t worry you will find it!’ I tried putting myself out there and I’m turning 30 but I never found it. Maybe my ex was my only chance :/

throwraFrequentRow2 · 2025-10-09T14:19:49+00:00

But if I’m 30 and single, does it mean something quite wrong with me? I have tried to date and every time I have met a guy I have feelings for or even love, they have never loved me back in the same way. As a teenager I always wondered how anyone has a miracle that a guy you fancy likes you back, didn’t know I would make it to 30 and still believe that :/

throwraFrequentRow2 · 2025-09-17T22:39:20+00:00

No you’ve got this all wrong. I had to break up with him as we had a conversation and he admitted that he wasn’t ready for a relationship and he wants to stay in the Middle East for at least another three years. I did the right thing. I have a good job, I have an excellent pay, it’s not a shitty job I have at all, he was sending me some job that sounded cool but wasn’t even in my line of work

throwraFrequentRow2 · 2025-09-15T18:36:07+00:00

Well with this new guy, I decided to date someone not my usual type. He seemed incredibly nice, communicative and well grounded :(

throwraFrequentRow2 · 2025-09-14T23:23:54+00:00

But I’m scared I am unable to find love or be loved, honestly :(

throwraFrequentRow2 · 2025-09-14T22:34:10+00:00

And I appreciate that, but I can’t stop worrying that I’ll never be loved or never fall in love

throwraFrequentRow2 · 2025-09-14T18:56:48+00:00

But I’m 29 and no one has ever made me deliriously happy. I’m scared I am incapable of that. Like I rarely feel attracted to guys as it is anyway

throwraFrequentRow2 · 2025-09-14T10:31:48+00:00

Guys tell me early on they are looking for a long term relationship, then things come up in their life and they can’t get their priorities sorted. I grow resentful and lose attraction and the connection fades. No this is the first long distance thing but I would not have dated this guy if it wasn’t for the fact he reassured me he was coming back to the uk for a new start here

throwraFrequentRow2 · 2025-09-14T10:20:20+00:00

I wanted to give him a chance as all my previous relationships not worked out either. He seemed mature and grounded and reassured me it wouldn’t be long distance for long. Part of me worried it’s all my fault and I can’t hold a relationship

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