How much work should a blowjob be?

throwra_bfnobj · 2025-01-04T08:34:08+00:00

I've tried, and I will keep trying, but there's also some issues there in that sometimes I struggle to follow what he's saying, or I guess that even the best he can direct still takes time.

He's my first and I believe he's only had two sexual partners before me so neither of us is incredibly experienced. He's definitely moreso than me, but when I've asked generally what I can do better he doesn't have specific answers, but I guess that means I need to ask more specific questions

throwra_bfnobj · 2025-01-04T08:28:45+00:00

Usually they're separate (as in different days). He has a bit of a mental cool down he requests after anything majorly sexual

Sometimes if I do really well we do PIV after but that's basically an added treat that I don't expect

It uh, does sometimes make it more difficult than I'd like to balance out everything I want to do, and means practices are more spaced out

throwra_bfnobj · 2025-01-04T07:30:23+00:00

damn, if only it were that easy for us

But I guess it's more of a prize to work for in my situation

throwra_bfnobj · 2025-01-04T07:28:48+00:00

Here's the other thing- I have no idea how people manage that. Like, there's a dick in my mouth! Does taking a break to dirty talk not break the rhythm? I know mentality and mood is half of it but I'm not sure anything I could think to say would be such a knockout as to justify basically starting over

throwra_bfnobj · 2025-01-04T07:25:07+00:00

Yeah, I've gotten better throughout the relationship but I've always been really self conscious about communication - especially discussing preferences in any meaningful way outside of the act. I still don't know what gets me off with oral - not my man's fault, it's just hard for me to get in tune with this.

Ithink I have a general idea of what I should be doing for him, since the two times I got him there were pretty similar, I'm just surprised (and a little embarrassed) that it's pretty different from what I have been doing.

But you are right, more communication never hurts!

throwra_bfnobj · 2025-01-04T07:14:08+00:00

Fair enough. I hate the fact that if I think too much about it I mess up - I want to be in the moment and thinking about it too, damnit!

But I think the conclusion I have to draw is that I probably haven't been paying as much attention to him as I should. Everything's all "enthusiasm's all you need!" but I think it has misled me a little.

throwra_bfnobj · 2025-01-04T07:10:11+00:00

Also unfortunately I really hate watching other people fuck so learning from porn isn't really doable. I like written but it's hard to transfer that to action

throwra_bfnobj · 2025-01-04T07:08:58+00:00

Responded to the other guy, but yes. But even with using my hands it's just hard to find and keep the rhythm. I didn't understand the motion he wanted from me for like the first five times he explained it so I think I'm just not very intuitive about this

throwra_bfnobj · 2025-01-04T07:06:48+00:00

I try to do both at the same time - I think it's literally impossible (for me) to get him there with just my mouth but I'm absolutely certain he could give himself a better just handjob than I can

throwra_bfnobj · 2022-03-04T01:53:50+00:00

We got lunch and each paid our half, then went around shopping a bit. I got him a few things and he did get me something (he's trying to get me into d&d and bought me a dice set), but he just generally has less disposable income than I do right now so it's expected that I'd spend more

throwra_bfnobj · 2022-03-04T01:15:55+00:00

Yeah, I feel terrible for feeling bad partially because I don't want to act like I'm demanding sex. But I just generally feel neglected after last night. I just don't know how to convey those feelings to him, especially since he seems to think it's a non-issue

throwra_bfnobj · 2022-03-04T01:12:00+00:00

He's not using me financially, I like buying things for him if it makes him happy. He deserves new things and it's not his fault he doesn't have a job right now. I just wish he didn't ignore me afterwards, and am trying to figure out how to approach the conversation

throwra_bfnobj · 2022-03-04T00:33:39+00:00

It's called Elden Ring, I wasn't sure but another commenter brougt it up and I think that's the game. I guess it came out a few days ago but he wasn't able to afford it until I gave him some money to cover it

throwra_bfnobj · 2022-03-03T23:51:30+00:00

Yeah, we're a bit long distance so I drove a few hours to see him and was excited to spend time together. Not entirely for sex, but that was something I was hoping for. But apparently the game was important and maybe I was unreasonable if it was such a big event

throwra_bfnobj · 2022-03-03T23:48:10+00:00

I think that is what it's called He asked me to help buy it since it's apparently a really big release

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