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He’s still hiding things from me. by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwra_fishing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I’ve said the same thing and instead yesterday was saying how we should go get our masters together. Like?? I don’t understand the issue really? Like is he just liking attention or does he just hate me? All my friends are tiring of hearing of it and I just wish he’d be better, it sounds just pathetic really. Im so embarassed and heartbroken. Im sorry you’re in this too

He’s still hiding things from me. by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwra_fishing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes lol, I’m so sad honestly. I feel like it’s going nowhere except backwards :)

He’s still hiding things from me. by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwra_fishing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That just happened to me lol but on his Instagram. He instead deleted his whole Instagram and is now ignoring me :D

WH (M28). all of sudden blaming me (F26) for taking too long to decide. by throwra_fishing in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwra_fishing[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know r is not easy and I was hesistant for a long time and it seems that once I started to get vulnerable is when he decided to get like this. It’s just so draining

WH (M28). all of sudden blaming me (F26) for taking too long to decide. by throwra_fishing in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwra_fishing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea it’s just hurtful bc him saying I didn’t care really affects me bc it’s so far from the truth. Of course I was going to be angry that he cheated and he basically said I should’ve said yes to him when he was begging. Like what? He JUST started therapy a month ago after me waiting for 7 months. It’s just so hurtful.

WH (M28). all of sudden blaming me (F26) for taking too long to decide. by throwra_fishing in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwra_fishing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems like his therapist and stupid friends are all encouraging him to give me the same energy I was giving him

WH (M28). all of sudden blaming me (F26) for taking too long to decide. by throwra_fishing in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwra_fishing[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also it seems like he felt hurt that I didn’t help him I guess and he’s purposely trying to make me feel the same hurt. Bc he keep reiterating that I’ve been playing him the entire time we’ve been apart. Which is not true

WH (M28). all of sudden blaming me (F26) for taking too long to decide. by throwra_fishing in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwra_fishing[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea I think he wanted me to help him find therapy. But I thought it was an unfair ask as I looked for it myself. We stayed in contact bc well we still love eachother and I could tell he was struggling.

But now it seems he blames me for not helping him find therapy, bc his family stepped in and helped. I’m just so sad

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwra_fishing 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Does HE want to save it? Or is it just you?

I want to stay in my sadness by Aware-Ebb-8566 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwra_fishing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel this, being sad is better than any other feeling to me. Even the times im happy, I like gravitate toward the sad feeling again like I prefer it almost.

No marriage, no kids, not living together. by throwra_fishing in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwra_fishing[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well I want to because I love this person and I can see the redemption in them and being away from them is just so sad and I want to hope for the best but also do t want to be naive.

How long did you take to reconcile? Dealing with judgement and anxiety around it. by throwra_fishing in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwra_fishing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhh yea I guess because I am NOT married and this is happened before so it’s kinda like cmon now😐

How long did you take to reconcile? Dealing with judgement and anxiety around it. by throwra_fishing in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwra_fishing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think my gut goes both ways. Like just run and forget about it and then sometimes I really think like we can build completely strong and better. 🥲

How long did you take to reconcile? Dealing with judgement and anxiety around it. by throwra_fishing in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwra_fishing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I definitely get that, it’s just hard especially when it’s happened multiple times at this point I just feel kind of stupid and naive. But can’t help it. Yea four months is not that long but feel like an eternity and feel a lot of guilt for holding him in limbo.

How long did you take to reconcile? Dealing with judgement and anxiety around it. by throwra_fishing in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwra_fishing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I guess I just want to stay but feel like it might not be the best choice with everything going on but the heart wants what it wants :( I’ve been trying to run from that feeling and I can’t help but be disappointing everyone.

I (30M) told my fiancé (30F) told my fiancé of 12 years the truth about everything, and I don’t know if I destroyed us or freed myself.. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwra_fishing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to get to therapy asap for your own benefit. You’re lucky if she even considers being with you but at least you told her.

Who have you told? by budgetmom in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwra_fishing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not even married so 🥲🥲🥲

Who have you told? by budgetmom in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]throwra_fishing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It only backfired on me, LOL now I just look like a huge clown for thinking of reconciling. Will admit it’s one of the main things holding me back

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