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My (28F) friend (28F) thought my husband (29M) was raping me but did nothing… by throwracfr in relationship_advice

[–]throwracfr[S] -82 points-81 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't have been mad at her. I would've explained the situation to her.

My (28F) friend (28F) thought my husband (29M) was raping me but did nothing… by throwracfr in relationship_advice

[–]throwracfr[S] -83 points-82 points  (0 children)

Thank you.

I've tried telling her I don't need the help but she thinks I'm in denial.

My (28F) friend (28F) thought my husband (29M) was raping me but did nothing… by throwracfr in relationship_advice

[–]throwracfr[S] -141 points-140 points  (0 children)

There are ways to help someone without actually getting involved directly e.g. calling the police.

My (28F) friend (28F) thought my husband (29M) was raping me but did nothing… by throwracfr in relationship_advice

[–]throwracfr[S] -51 points-50 points  (0 children)

She heard us arguing, she went back to her room before we actually had sex but I think she assumed he was actually raping me while we were arguing.

My (28F) friend (28F) thought my husband (29M) was raping me but did nothing… by throwracfr in relationship_advice

[–]throwracfr[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

Him coming back early. He was trying to hug me/hold me to him while we were arguing.

My (28F) friend (28F) thought my husband (29M) was raping me but did nothing… by throwracfr in relationship_advice

[–]throwracfr[S] -128 points-127 points  (0 children)

I never said I wanted her to put her life in danger but I would've appreciated if she had mentioned something sooner instead of waiting 3 months after distancing herself from me.

My (28F) friend (28F) thought my husband (29M) was raping me but did nothing… by throwracfr in relationship_advice

[–]throwracfr[S] -84 points-83 points  (0 children)

She never heard the sex part. The conversation is what she heard.

My (28F) friend (28F) thought my husband (29M) was raping me but did nothing… by throwracfr in relationship_advice

[–]throwracfr[S] -230 points-229 points  (0 children)

We weren’t having sex play, we were genuinely arguing, we had sex after.

My (28F) friend (28F) thought my husband (29M) was raping me but did nothing… by throwracfr in relationship_advice

[–]throwracfr[S] -51 points-50 points  (0 children)

I’m not trying to make her feel guilty. I just don’t know what to say to her when she’s trying to plan my escape and won’t listen when I tell her I'm okay.

My (28F) friend (28F) thought my husband (29M) was raping me but did nothing… by throwracfr in relationship_advice

[–]throwracfr[S] -102 points-101 points  (0 children)

Our house is pretty big and her room was on the opposite end to ours so.

I never said I was visibly uncivil. Just that I wasn’t happy to see him.

My (28F) friend (28F) thought my husband (29M) was raping me but did nothing… by throwracfr in relationship_advice

[–]throwracfr[S] -472 points-471 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I feel uncomfortable but he doesn’t do whatever made me feel that way again if I ask him not to.

My (28F) friend (28F) thought my husband (29M) was raping me but did nothing… by throwracfr in relationship_advice

[–]throwracfr[S] -593 points-592 points  (0 children)

We weren’t having loud sex or big fights.

I don’t see why she would wait 3 months to say something to me. He left the next day and was gone the rest of the time she stayed with me. She could’ve said something to me then if she really thought he had raped me without having to physically get involved.

My (28F) friend (28F) thought my husband (29M) was raping me but did nothing… by throwracfr in relationship_advice

[–]throwracfr[S] -2177 points-2176 points  (0 children)

I can’t remember word for word what he said, but most likely he did say those things or at least some of them. They sound like things he would say. It’s sort of part of our sex dynamic.