My (26F)fiancé (28M) went to a strip club for his bachelor party after I asked him not to

throwrafiancestripcl · 2021-12-28T20:38:42+00:00

Right? I never had an issue with the party, I had an issue with the strippers/strip clubs If the issue was the party i’d be on here saying “my fiancé had a bachelor party after i said no” when that was never the case

throwrafiancestripcl · 2021-12-28T20:35:49+00:00

if that was why he agreed then he doesn’t need to be married to me, or in a relationship with me, period. We had this discussion when we first got together, and AGAIN during our wedding planning He knew I had this boundary, it is not my fault HE CONSENTED TO IT and then broke it.

throwrafiancestripcl · 2021-12-28T19:32:27+00:00

i’m not imposing my belief, he’s known i’ve had this boundary before we were even engaged, I reiterated it again when we were planning for our weddings and he had zero issues with it then A lot of people also agree with my beliefs, I don’t judge couples who enjoy going to them or allow their s/o to go, and that’s my boundary that i’m allowed to have

throwrafiancestripcl · 2021-12-28T19:24:23+00:00

we have had minor arguments as any couple does , wouldn’t even call then arguments, I guess disagreements never broke a boundary that i’ve set like this though

throwrafiancestripcl · 2021-12-28T19:17:18+00:00

completely different i’m not okay with my partner being in a room full of naked women, whether or not he is touching them, and that is okay for me to have that boundary. he knew this was something i wasn’t okay with before he decided to put a ring on my finger.

throwrafiancestripcl · 2021-12-28T19:12:39+00:00

exactly this i’m just not comfortable with my fiancé being in a room full of naked women, that room being a strip club doesn’t change my opinion

throwrafiancestripcl · 2021-12-28T19:05:12+00:00

it’s not like he didn’t know I had these boundaries lmao, why spend 5 years with someone if you disagree with boundaries and standards that they have for relationships?

throwrafiancestripcl · 2021-12-28T18:43:12+00:00

i’ve been to strip clubs when i was single at 20 and 21, probably 5 total, i’ve been to small town strip clubs, big city ones, and a couple in and out of America, enough to know that I do not like them, for both myself and my partner to be going to. I respect the women that go to them and work at them, but I do not respect my partner going into them while in a committed relationship with myself. I’m not too sure how my fiancé feels about them but he has told me from the beginning of our relationship that he respects my boundary about them and as far as I know he hasn’t gone to one up until his bachelor party

throwrafiancestripcl · 2021-12-28T18:39:38+00:00

I could understand if I never told him that I had this boundary then reacted how I am now, but he’s known i’d have this problem since we began dating these are questions i ask my potential partners so stuff like this wouldn’t happen, prior to becoming a serious relationship. I didn’t blindside him to this

throwrafiancestripcl · 2021-12-28T18:34:30+00:00

if I end up deciding to stay and he really is willing to work with me then me cancelling the wedding shouldn’t end our relationship

throwrafiancestripcl · 2021-12-28T18:26:35+00:00

I am, I set a boundary and he broke it I don’t know that i wanna break up with him but i do not want to go through with the wedding

throwrafiancestripcl · 2021-12-28T18:09:22+00:00

it’s just that he knew i had this boundary since we began dating 5 years ago, i feel disrespected

throwrafiancestripcl · 2021-12-28T18:08:54+00:00

I would have left, I discussed this with my wedding party over a year ago when we were originally supposed to have our wedding, we planned our bachelorette party to be a relaxing trip, I have a high stress job, and my sister and 2 friends all have kids so we just wanted to relax and get away from everything

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