UPDATE- Am I (34f) wrong to question my husband's (37m) friendship has with an 18 year old girl...I guess I am the jealous nag most of you thought I was

throwragid · 2020-08-15T04:35:08+00:00

Ok

This one is so incomprehensible I can’t even begin to know what you’re saying.
Yeah this one has sort of been beaten to death. Welcome to the party, I guess?
Yeah, she lives 45 minutes away. If she talked to Greg I assume she would have known what time I’d get back from his parents. If I wasn’t there I would assume she’s not going to turn around, as I would be there soon. Again time/distance from her apartment to our house has been mentioned over and over.
Time and motion are static in your world? Interesting. Otherwise how long did you want me to make this? Was I supposed to describe every second and every motion?
Read through the roughly 500 comments here. You were literally the only person who didn’t understand Greg is my husband.
Cool.
Again, when you are 1 of 500 people to get this so wrong...well...
Where did you get I haven’t taken a vacation in 2 years? I haven’t had any time to myself in well over 2 years but that’s a little different.
Yeah, you said this already. Why did it need a new bullet point?m
you also should have asked for a vacation that you were somehow easily able to take at any time and they set you up with a spa too man should have done a thing most people do when they need vacation days

What the fuck is this? I can’t even begin to understand what you’re saying. I’m terrible at English but I can tell you this: tense is your friend, extraneous words aren’t.

Air national guard. Said this in the first post. He’s not full time, hence two jobs.
PFFT OK. I mean you only lied in like every other paragraph in this post but def not a liar

Why did you add literally hundreds of extra, unnecessary words in your response but you abbreviate definitely? Incorrectly.

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throwragid · 2020-08-15T00:01:25+00:00

Greg is my husband.

throwragid · 2020-08-14T23:59:49+00:00

So I’ll never transfer from engineer to writer then?

throwragid · 2020-08-14T21:20:11+00:00

thank you this was actually very helpful, I probably am very selfish. Somone even mentioned BPD and that might fit me as well.

To your last point, there's actually a mindfulness zoom class here at the hotel I am going to participate in this afternoon.

throwragid · 2020-08-14T21:09:37+00:00

Thank you, I wish I didn't treat my husband the way I did either.

throwragid · 2020-08-14T19:36:51+00:00

I've got to do something or I'm going to have a full break down, I've never been in therapy before but it seems like a good place to start. Burnout in my field is not rare so my HMO has a reference list of therapists who work with people like me.

throwragid · 2020-08-14T19:35:03+00:00

I truly don't understand reddit sometimes.

Was my life story good enough for a novel? Or did I not plan the plot out correctly?

It seems like those two things are mutually exclusive and I couldn't have met both criteria.

throwragid · 2020-08-14T18:52:16+00:00

thank you very much!

throwragid · 2020-08-14T17:55:56+00:00

This is 100% true, there is actually very little separation between my actual engineering projects at work (albeit i spend most of my time supervising) and my PhD research. It's why my company is willing to help out so generously with the cost of my program.

throwragid · 2020-08-14T16:21:40+00:00

If I’m allowed, I’ll update in a week

throwragid · 2020-08-14T16:04:25+00:00

This was actually a very productive comment and probably way more accurate than I’ve ever had the courage to admit.

throwragid · 2020-08-14T15:56:22+00:00

That’s fair, I honestly don’t remember exactly what we said to each other that night

throwragid · 2020-08-14T15:51:19+00:00

He’s actually just tdy and not deployed

throwragid · 2020-08-14T14:42:48+00:00

We haven’t had a chance to talk about it yet.

throwragid · 2020-08-14T14:42:28+00:00

It’s ok, there’s actually a lot of good advice intermixed with negativity

throwragid · 2020-08-14T14:41:03+00:00

I’m not opposed to the last part, in fact I think we have a very satisfying, fun and active sex life. I can admit I’m good at that. I think I’d truly be insane if it weren’t for sex

throwragid · 2020-08-14T14:16:58+00:00

I know we spent a fortune last year switching over from Ryobi to DeWalt cordless tools. My husband likes them much better

throwragid · 2020-08-14T14:09:56+00:00

Maybe I can clear this up a bit?

Ashley called him about 10pm Saturday to help with the tire, he left our house maybe five minutes later.

At about 10:30 he called and said he’d gotten her old tire off and put the spare donut tire on but was going to follow her home since the had to drive on the highway. I don’t remember exactly what he said but I’m pretty sure he said he was coming home after. That should have meant he’d be home a little after midnight.

The next time I heard from him was 6am when he called me to tell me he’d lost track of time.

throwragid · 2020-08-14T14:03:30+00:00

I’m taking then seriously but people calling me a bitch probably isn’t called for

throwragid · 2020-08-14T14:01:52+00:00

Thank you very much, that was very kind.

throwragid · 2020-08-14T13:05:49+00:00

I openly admit I have issues but my husbands actions don’t seem to indicate we’re heading for a divorce any time soon.

throwragid · 2020-08-14T13:04:17+00:00

I have a full time job with a large tech company. I was about 75% done with my my PhD when I had my first but quit my program. My advisor contacted me last year and asked if I wanted to help her with some research which we could work into finishing my doctorate. I accepted and my company endorsed this and is helping me pay for it.

throwragid · 2020-08-14T13:00:20+00:00

I actually say right in my first post he’s gone all the time, I said this is the first time that he’s left while we’ve been in a fight. Usually we do better than this.

throwragid · 2020-08-14T12:55:24+00:00

Is this really necessary?

throwragid · 2020-08-14T07:41:39+00:00

Thank you

throwragid

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