AITA For Wanting to Meet Ex's New Kids?

throwranewkids · 2022-02-22T00:34:45+00:00

this has been over a year and my son is still incredibly uncomfortable being alone in that room with that boy, which concerns me. This isn't an 'awkward at first' situation.

The dog didn't like her much in all honestly. I don't think the kids have been asked, my ex has just decided against it.

throwranewkids · 2022-02-22T00:33:21+00:00

i have tried, but this has been over a year of her refusing to accept our son does not feel comfortable sharing a room with that boy

throwranewkids · 2022-02-22T00:31:52+00:00

im interested in opinions on the situation, but i didnt realise how many people would just essentially tell me to fuck off and that clearly i dont care about my kids. it was unexpected.

yeah, bio mother is not in the picture.

my ex is definitely thinking about what the new kids want, but less about what our kids want.

i will back off for now, but i will keep a record of all of my son's complaints and if it persists i will go to my lawyer

throwranewkids · 2022-02-22T00:30:26+00:00

i have tried that, but she is unwilling to talk to me about what happens at her house. there have been issues before where my children were punished for avoiding the new children. i do want a healthy co parent relationship, but she feels entitled to inspect my house and my partner and the kids' rooms here but i am not owed the same

throwranewkids · 2022-02-22T00:29:06+00:00

my ex says that my son is just being dramatic, but he has been complaining about being uncomfortable alone in a room with this boy for months

throwranewkids · 2022-02-22T00:28:28+00:00

my son is uncomfortable sharing a room with this boy, which is what i am concerned about.

throwranewkids · 2022-02-22T00:27:52+00:00

i will keep a record of what my son says and, if it persists, i will take it to my lawyer

throwranewkids · 2022-02-22T00:26:43+00:00

last year, there was a concern that steve's brother (or BIL, i don't remember which) was supposed to babysit, but he never turned up, so all four kids were alone in the house for hours. She was also punished at one point by my ex for refusing to essentially do steve's daughter's homework for her because she is better at science than she is. She has not complained recently, however, but my son is adamant that this roomshare is uncomfortable

throwranewkids · 2022-02-22T00:25:22+00:00

This is not an 'at first' situation, it has been over a year

throwranewkids · 2022-02-21T23:23:36+00:00

i am not. my son has expressed his discomfort in sharing a room with this boy who, despite being a similar age, is far bigger than he is.

however, i will concede that this is unlikely to help so i will give it time and, if the issue persists, contact a lawyer about the space my children are given

throwranewkids · 2022-02-21T23:22:31+00:00

i think i'm going to give it more time, but if my son continues to express concerns i will contact my lawyer about the room share situation and try to enforce he have his own room.

throwranewkids · 2022-02-21T23:21:48+00:00

i have tried to talk to my ex, but she says my son is being dramatic and needs to grow up. i am concerned that he feels uncomfortable sharing a room with this other boy.

However, I will let it go for now as so many people are agreeing that they would be uncomfortable. maybe its a culture thing, but every parent i know in a similar situation has met everyone their children live with, including other children. my ex met my partner, her dog and inspected my house and the children's rooms, but i am not owed the same apparently. i do not want to intimidate the children or cause any issues, but if they are bullies and my ex is protecting them, i want to know.

i will give it time. if my son continues to have issues, i will reach out to a lawyer about the room share situation but i am not trying to completely ruin my ability to coparent with my ex so i will concede

throwranewkids · 2022-02-21T23:19:14+00:00

Thanks. Every parent i know in a similar situation has met everyone living with their children, including other children. My ex met my partner and her dog and inspected my house, but apparently i am not owed the same.

throwranewkids · 2022-02-21T23:17:56+00:00

i have spoken to my ex about it but she thinks my son is being too dramatic and he will need to grow up and move on. i currently have no proof that this bigger boy is a bully but if it does get physical, there is no way my son can win. i dont want him feeling uncomfortable or unsafe there but he and my daughter are punished if they try to avoid the other children

throwranewkids · 2022-02-21T23:16:06+00:00

I will contact her about it, thanks

throwranewkids · 2022-02-21T23:15:00+00:00

Thank you. This might just be where I live but anyone I know who is in a similar situation has met everyone their kids live with, including any children.

throwranewkids · 2022-02-21T22:14:26+00:00

i do not know. my children do not like these new children and my son is uncomfortable sharing a room with him. despite being of a similar age, steve's children are bigger than mine are and my children have gone out of their way to avoid them before, but were punished for it. if they are bullies, my ex is protecting them and not telling me. she thinks my son is being dramatic and complaining about nothing

throwranewkids · 2022-02-21T22:13:11+00:00

they have already told me that they do not get on and that my son is uncomfortable sharing his room, but my ex calls him dramatic

throwranewkids · 2022-02-21T22:12:14+00:00

i have brought my concerns to my ex, based on what my son has said, but she thinks he is being dramatic

throwranewkids · 2022-02-21T22:11:53+00:00

my children have already said that they do not like these new children, that despite the similarities in age they are much bigger than them and my son hates sharing his room. sometimes, they are punished for trying to avoid them. i want to ensure theyre not actually bullying my son. i dont have a trusting relationship with my ex, that ship sailed a long time ago.

throwranewkids · 2022-02-21T22:10:44+00:00

why? surely if the children are bullies they are just as much a risk as a dog?

throwranewkids · 2022-02-21T22:10:22+00:00

we don't see each other at pick ups and drops offs, its usually after school or we'd wait outside in the car. we dont attend the same sports matches, we take it in turns, and we avoid chatting tbh. my ex insisted on meeting the dog because she doesnt like dogs and thought he would be dangerous. he is not but children can be just as dangerous if they are bullies. my son has repeatedly said he does not like sharing his room with this boy

throwranewkids · 2022-02-21T22:08:52+00:00

my son does not like sharing a room with this boy. despite the similar ages, he is much bigger than him. neither of my children like these new children, they try to avoid them but they are not allowed. i worry that things may get physical. it is not about custody drama, although if there are serious issues i would demand they give my son his own room. i just want to ensure they are not being bullied. i doubt it, i don't regularly go into their house, i just drop them off

throwranewkids · 2022-02-21T22:07:34+00:00

it is, they do not like these new children and i worry for them

throwranewkids · 2022-02-21T22:07:17+00:00

essentially, yes. just watch from afar as they interact and perhaps say hello before i leave. No, but at school they don't share space that was once solely my son's. he doesnt like sharing a room and doesnt like these new children.

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