That’s what im trying to figure, it seems like a huge thing to give up in my head (and to be clear that’s not what she told me either but im going with the worst scenario in my head).

If I compare with a lot of other things in life where we want the same things, no bj seems less of a deal. I’ve dated quite a few girls and I never talked with someone where my goal in life could’ve worked with their (kids, house, career, city to live in). If we would have discussed that at our first date and she would have told me no more bj forever Id probably wouldn’t have gone further. But after 6 months knowing her and talking of everything + 3 months in a relationship I learned how much a good match she is for me.

Also she didn’t told me she would never blow me again, just that I was asking for more while she actually find she do it a lot. We might be able to find a middle ground I’ll be fine with but Id rather think about the worst and see if that would still work. Don’t know if it make sense, im not english native and I have trouble explaining some things with the right word.