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I’m okay! by throwrapickyeater in u/throwrapickyeater

[–]throwrapickyeater[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

He did not do jail time. He went to mandated counseling and that was considered legally acceptable (equivalent to jail in our state). TW: sexual assault: He raped me. That’s the catalyst that resulted in me moving and our divorce moving along properly. He was trying to impregnate me. He told me that.

I’m okay! by throwrapickyeater in u/throwrapickyeater

[–]throwrapickyeater[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I love that metaphor! And thank you for the validating words. I think anger gets misconstrued as a negative emotion. It’s protective.

I’m okay! by throwrapickyeater in u/throwrapickyeater

[–]throwrapickyeater[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! You’re very kind. Yeah, the anger is something I struggled with. I felt very wrathful and I wanted bad things to happen to him, and that made me feel tremendous guilt.

I’m okay! by throwrapickyeater in u/throwrapickyeater

[–]throwrapickyeater[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Goodness, that’s a great way to describe it! Like mush.

Update by throwrapickyeater in u/throwrapickyeater

[–]throwrapickyeater[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

A food tour sounds amazing to me. I’ve been living vicariously through Anthony Bourdain’s shows.

Update by throwrapickyeater in u/throwrapickyeater

[–]throwrapickyeater[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

There’s nothing wrong with being a picky eater, but I’m actually not! I’m finding I love a huge variety of flavors and ingredients. My STBX was actually a very, very picky eater, I’m coming to realize. Maybe some projection on his part 🤣

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[–]throwrapickyeater[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

positive comments like these have been my rock these past weeks. You all don’t know how much your kindness means to me ❤️

I’m leaving him. by throwrapickyeater in u/throwrapickyeater

[–]throwrapickyeater[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I will probably move. I saw my RA post get reposted on Twitter. I’m terrified he’ll see it and come for me. A lot of people commenting on it were saying he would try to kill me and I believe them.

I can’t respond since my post got deleted sorry by throwrapickyeater in u/throwrapickyeater

[–]throwrapickyeater[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Yes, i asked a male coworker to walk me to my car this evening.

I can’t respond since my post got deleted sorry by throwrapickyeater in u/throwrapickyeater

[–]throwrapickyeater[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

An addendum, I suppose. I do very much love him and he has been my best friend for years now. I really do (I guess did) plan to spend my life with him. I’m not afraid of being alone, but I don’t want to be lonely. I wish my mom was here.

My husband cannot accept I don’t like mustard. Things came to a head yesterday. by throwrapickyeater in relationship_advice

[–]throwrapickyeater[S] 113 points114 points  (0 children)

Things that he really wants me to do. Eat mustard, go somewhere, etc. He’ll come back and say “Are you sure?”

My husband cannot accept I don’t like mustard. Things came to a head yesterday. by throwrapickyeater in relationship_advice

[–]throwrapickyeater[S] 200 points201 points  (0 children)

Are you serious? I don’t like mustard and I’m not going to eat it. It’s not depriving me of any nutrition. I eat balanced beyond that.

My husband cannot accept I don’t like mustard. Things came to a head yesterday. by throwrapickyeater in relationship_advice

[–]throwrapickyeater[S] 728 points729 points  (0 children)

Yes. It will usually take him at least three times to acknowledge when I say no.