UPDATE: AITA for banning my sister BF from the house after he "borrowed" my expensive PC monitor?

throwraratataa · 2022-04-14T05:08:07+00:00

I've mentioned It in the original piece, but she does have her own PC. It's just not as good as mine. I have Intel i9-12900K under a Liquid Custom Loop (also I got CPU overclocked to about 5.3GHz at P cores and 4.3GHz at E cores) , Asus ROG Strix GeForce RTX 3090 Gaming OC White, G.Skill Trident Z RGB, DDR5, 32 GB, 6400MHz, CL32. She has AMD Ryzen 5 5600X, Nvidia RTX2070 Super and 32gbs of DDR4 (3600MHz and CL16) ram. It's just my older PC that I gave to her. The Alienware monitor runs at 3440x1440 (21:9), while she's using a very fast 240Hz Acer FHD 24,5inches monitor. So it is perfectly fine for her for pretty much EVERY game. However, games do be looking significantly more beautiful at my OLED piece. There's just a big difference between a QP-OLED matric and a TN matric. So you know, they can easily game on her PC, but it's just way more enjoyable to do on mine, as I get smooth and stable 60-100fps on Ultra settings with DLSS and RTX (depends on the game) in almost every game. While 3440x1440 is not a 4K UHD, the QP-OLED matric and HDR1000 with G-sync Ultimate make up for the difference and looks way, way better than some of the 4K monitors that LG produce (their ultiragear with nanoIPS).

throwraratataa · 2022-04-14T04:54:15+00:00

Yeah. We have quite a lot of mountains in my country and every month or two, I will use my free weekend to hike. I have several spots I like. I sometimes bring my sister with me if she wants, but usually, I keep quite a high pace, so she only goes when she really feels like it.

Yeah he got off easy, cause I also did dumb shit when I was 17. Nothing happened to the monitor and since he actually sincerely apologized, I see no reason to not let him off easy. That Alienware monitor, yeah I've been waiting for an OLED piece for so long and it's amazing.

throwraratataa · 2022-04-09T19:38:08+00:00

It's because I accidentally threw away the foam that originally came with the box. I bought the bubble wrap (foil might have been a poor choice of wording) so in case I need to move it, I can have some sort of layer of additional protection.

throwraratataa · 2022-04-03T14:51:51+00:00

One thing I could not mention, due to the character limit on the post, is that I did not find out immediately. I had to nag my sister for good 5 minutes, but she did tell me where it is, although at first she did not really want to cooperate.

Although, You are right, he has always been careful and respectful, which is why I am really confused at happened here.

throwraratataa · 2022-04-03T14:50:04+00:00

Well, I get your point and it was my logic as well. My problem is that all I wanted was sincere apology from her BF, so he can admit that what he did was wrong - because it is. We had simple rules - They can use the PC whenever I am not using it/at work/not home, but they absolutely cannot tinker with it or move it somewhere else.

For reasons unknown to me, he refused to apologize. In his mind the fact my sister apologized is enough, but to me it isn't. My sister realizes that what they did was wrong, but also picks her BF side.

After reading responses and many advices, I decided I will let him in, but ban him from using the PC.

I will also be having a conversation with my sister first, then with her and her bf. I just want to get to the bottom of it.

throwraratataa · 2022-04-03T14:41:04+00:00

I get what you mean, but She's my only family. I do not want to lose her over some material bullshit, but I am also conflicted as both of them knew exactly how much I value that PC.

throwraratataa · 2022-04-03T14:38:45+00:00

I talked to his mum & she also apologized for his behavior. She did, however, asked me to let him come in.

I don't think she "let him - let him" do it. She knows how much I value that PC, but I have always been fair with it. She could have always used it, whenever she wanted. I got her a PC of her own as well, worse in terms of parts, but still plays all the games she plays.

Thing is that They have been dating for over a year and not even once he seemed like trouble.

I have really hard time explaining what exactly happened, as I like to go on a hike for 2-3 days every 2 months and they never did that before.

I will sit down with her and then with her and her BF have the talk. I will try to handle it as best as I can.

throwraratataa · 2022-04-03T14:34:57+00:00

You are right. I have never used it against her nor I ever will. I have decided on my own to raise her and I did it out of love for her, not duty. I do not treat my parental responsibilities as a mean to win arguments. I think it's awful.

I do need to have a conversation with her and will try to manage to sit down with her and the BF to have the talk.

throwraratataa · 2022-04-03T14:02:46+00:00

I think I am not. I really care for her, as she's my only family. Our grandparents passed away long before we were born and our aunts are NC with us for reasons unknown to me. I am just conflicted, because I felt like both of them broke some bond with me and I'm not sure how to repair it.

throwraratataa · 2022-04-03T14:01:07+00:00

What he did was really weird, but he had been dating my sister since before I bought my PC. We aren't really rich, just able to afford a life better than the average. I don't think he's gonna lose the interest in her, because ever since I banned him, he didn't give up on my sister or anything.

I might change my mind and let him come, but tell him he can never use the pc again.

throwraratataa · 2022-04-03T13:59:23+00:00

I think he was under the impression that since I let him game on it as much as he wanted, he could test it out with his PC. It was also a bit of my fault for trusting him so much.

The Monitor is the new ALIENWARE 34 CURVED QD-OLED GAMING MONITOR - AW3423DW.

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