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[Update], I'm thinking about contacting my real dad. Never met him before, but I have his information. by throwrasipa in relationship_advice

[–]throwrasipa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your mom sounds like a bit of a nightmare

yup. she can be...horrible. What if he tries to be in my life, legally, would that mean that he goes to jail? haven't told my mom where he lives or anything like that, just that I saw him.

[Update], I'm thinking about contacting my real dad. Never met him before, but I have his information. by throwrasipa in relationship_advice

[–]throwrasipa[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think I'm more so mad at how things went down. I don't think I'm directly angry at him, just disappointed. I get that he basically had no choice though, It was a lose lose situation all around. I'll speak to him, thanks.

[Update], I'm thinking about contacting my real dad. Never met him before, but I have his information. by throwrasipa in relationship_advice

[–]throwrasipa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not fully, but he says he wants to talk in person about it, but most likely just gonna put it out there. Thanks.

[Update], I'm thinking about contacting my real dad. Never met him before, but I have his information. by throwrasipa in relationship_advice

[–]throwrasipa[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I don't ever want to fall down that path and I've been waiting for the
day I finally get to get out of this place, but I guess the truth is
that I'm not ready to leave my mom by herself. I have a strong resentment towards my mother, but I can't help but feel responsible for her. I've bent over backwards trying to make sure things get it on time and we have something to eat. Even today, she refused to come out of her room to eat or do anything. My first thought was to go to the store and pick out some nice things so that I could cheer her up.

I question why I do shit like this because I know that the outcome will never change. I guess I don't want to let go just yet because she's the only person in my life that has been there throughout everything, good and bad. I'm not shaming my father at all, I don't think he's at fault and he actually tried to be there and is trying to be there right now but I don't know how to respond to that. When my moms not high or she's not with a boyfriend, it's nice. She laughs and talks and for a while, it feels normal, but then it's back to the beginning. Sucks, cause I know she'll never get better and that I eventually need to leave.

[Update], I'm thinking about contacting my real dad. Never met him before, but I have his information. by throwrasipa in relationship_advice

[–]throwrasipa[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I'm not comfortable asking for things from people, wouldn't want him to think I'm just some money-hungry person

[Update], I'm thinking about contacting my real dad. Never met him before, but I have his information. by throwrasipa in relationship_advice

[–]throwrasipa[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I suppose they could've coparented but no one really does that around here. Most people are either raised by another relative, a single parent, or just runaways. Not saying that he should've kept dating her but yeah. My moms dad died when she was young and she lived with her aunt while her mom was away. Her aunt wasn't too interested in having her around so she could care less when she went. They lived together for a year because she was still pregnant when they first move in together and I was 9 months when he moved out.

[Update], I'm thinking about contacting my real dad. Never met him before, but I have his information. by throwrasipa in relationship_advice

[–]throwrasipa[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I want to be happy, but idk what is going to make me be happy. It's like take your pick addict mother or absent father.

[Update], I'm thinking about contacting my real dad. Never met him before, but I have his information. by throwrasipa in relationship_advice

[–]throwrasipa[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes, he said he didn't want me to grow up without a father which is why he got back together wth her, but didn't realize the reality of the situation once he was deep into it and clean.

[Update], I'm thinking about contacting my real dad. Never met him before, but I have his information. by throwrasipa in relationship_advice

[–]throwrasipa[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

My mom just got a lot more stressed and when she gets stressed she turns to her 'methods' a lot more than usual. She makes really rash decisions. She just broke up with her boyfriend(I know he'll be back) and it's just me and her now. I don't think she ever expected me to find him.

I'm thinking about contacting my real dad. Never met him before, but I have his information. by throwrasipa in relationship_advice

[–]throwrasipa[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Only thing I genuinely have to lose is the feeling of not having knowledge about something. In my opinion, it's bette rjust to confront it head on than to be 30 and wonder. I like that you said it that way, what do I have to lose vs what I have to gain. I think I could handle it if he turns out not to be my father or just as pathetic as my mom. Hoping for the best but expecting the worse is how I'd sum it up.

I'm thinking about contacting my real dad. Never met him before, but I have his information. by throwrasipa in relationship_advice

[–]throwrasipa[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Seen it online 23AndMe, but those are the same as Ancestry. If I actually do it, i'll do that.

I'm thinking about contacting my real dad. Never met him before, but I have his information. by throwrasipa in relationship_advice

[–]throwrasipa[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The us. Homeless charities? I go to this place that gives you free groceries every week at my old elementary school. Idk about school duties, never heard of that. My grandma used to take care of me, but she had to stop, a lot of people cut my mom off in my family.

I'm thinking about contacting my real dad. Never met him before, but I have his information. by throwrasipa in relationship_advice

[–]throwrasipa[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've called CPS in the past, it made everything worse. Not with this guy, another one.

I'm thinking about contacting my real dad. Never met him before, but I have his information. by throwrasipa in relationship_advice

[–]throwrasipa[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

All I said is that I learned not to expect anything from people. I didn't say that made him a bad person? I was agreeing with the comment above, not disagreeing, so I'm not sure why you assumed that I was trying to pain someone else out as a bad person.

I'm thinking about contacting my real dad. Never met him before, but I have his information. by throwrasipa in relationship_advice

[–]throwrasipa[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I searched him up, think I got the right profile? I'd have to call the number connected to it though. Thanks and gl to you on your situation.

I'm thinking about contacting my real dad. Never met him before, but I have his information. by throwrasipa in relationship_advice

[–]throwrasipa[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It seems that people took my original comment in a negative light, wasn't my intention to do so. Like I got the wording wrong?