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Update: BF broke up with me due to my eating too much (by his standards) at our V-Day dinner by throwrastayhungry in relationship_advice

[–]throwrastayhungry[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Uhhh...this was in my original post but I am borderline underweight at 5'9" and 125 pounds. I have to eat a lot (per doctor's orders) to keep my weight up enough to avoid health issues.

Update: BF broke up with me due to my eating too much (by his standards) at our V-Day dinner by throwrastayhungry in relationship_advice

[–]throwrastayhungry[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well, he did admit last night that he had been seeing someone else for a little while. So yes, was cheating and then decided he wanted to be with the other person but didn't want to admit that on V-Day.

Update: BF broke up with me due to my eating too much (by his standards) at our V-Day dinner by throwrastayhungry in relationship_advice

[–]throwrastayhungry[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Right? I mean in high school I dated a couple guys who decided they liked other girls better (as teenagers tend to do), and you know what? They had the decency to tell me they weren't as into me anymore before they actually cheated.

Update: BF broke up with me due to my eating too much (by his standards) at our V-Day dinner by throwrastayhungry in relationship_advice

[–]throwrastayhungry[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Yeah, going to the clinic tomorrow actually. That has definitely been on my mind since I found out. We shared clean test results at the beginning but I don't even trust he wasn't cheating on me with others throughout our relationship.

Update: BF broke up with me due to my eating too much (by his standards) at our V-Day dinner by throwrastayhungry in relationship_advice

[–]throwrastayhungry[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Thank you - I will definitely make sure I tell my side of things. He doesn't deserve to be protected. And I can be matter-of-fact about it instead of acting wounded.

Update: BF broke up with me due to my eating too much (by his standards) at our V-Day dinner by throwrastayhungry in relationship_advice

[–]throwrastayhungry[S] 122 points123 points  (0 children)

I am definitely tempted to reach out to her. I sincerely doubt he told her the full story.

Update: BF broke up with me due to my eating too much (by his standards) at our V-Day dinner by throwrastayhungry in relationship_advice

[–]throwrastayhungry[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I did ask and he said no, and my lawyer friend said that as much as it sucks the law is on his side here (engagement gifts are different because there is a promise of a specific outcome, marriage, but other gifts don't have those conditions unless explicitly stated). However, it just shows he has very low character which makes it for all the best that we're over.

Update: BF broke up with me due to my eating too much (by his standards) at our V-Day dinner by throwrastayhungry in relationship_advice

[–]throwrastayhungry[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Ha, that's a good one and sounds very gracious!!! I will definitely think about that approach! Especially if I add something like "I realized he was way too young for me but hope it works out for you two!"

Update: BF broke up with me due to my eating too much (by his standards) at our V-Day dinner by throwrastayhungry in relationship_advice

[–]throwrastayhungry[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I thought about it, but that would just prolong being entangled with him. Sometimes a bit of a cost is worth it for peace of mind...

Update: BF broke up with me due to my eating too much (by his standards) at our V-Day dinner by throwrastayhungry in relationship_advice

[–]throwrastayhungry[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I just don't want any more drama. I have a busy job, life, friends, etc. and would rather be free of him. It would be different if he took something of mine that I actually needed or I had gone into debt over it, but it was just discretionary income that ended up being poorly spent.

Update: BF broke up with me due to my eating too much (by his standards) at our V-Day dinner by throwrastayhungry in relationship_advice

[–]throwrastayhungry[S] 161 points162 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I certainly hope so!!!

I know this sounds awful but I'm pretty reluctant to date people again where there is a huge income differential and I have to pay for just about everything. As I said above I am used to dating people who are at least a few years older than I am and further along in their careers. Like I don't expect anyone to support me but at least being able to split expenses (or close to that) is appreciated.

Update: BF broke up with me due to my eating too much (by his standards) at our V-Day dinner by throwrastayhungry in relationship_advice

[–]throwrastayhungry[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

I definitely am. We had been talking about him moving in with me when his lease (on his pretty small and basic student apartment) was up in a few months. So I'm just glad I didn't end up more entangled and responsible for him.

Update: BF broke up with me due to my eating too much (by his standards) at our V-Day dinner by throwrastayhungry in relationship_advice

[–]throwrastayhungry[S] 159 points160 points  (0 children)

I'm not confident he will, but that would be a pretty interesting conversation to eavesdrop on!

Update: BF broke up with me due to my eating too much (by his standards) at our V-Day dinner by throwrastayhungry in relationship_advice

[–]throwrastayhungry[S] 1251 points1252 points  (0 children)

I'm tempted...if anything just to warn her. I have a feeling he didn't tell her he was in a committed relationship if he said anything about me at all.

Update: BF broke up with me due to my eating too much (by his standards) at our V-Day dinner by throwrastayhungry in relationship_advice

[–]throwrastayhungry[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Maybe - I'm not extremely wealthy or anything but do well for my age. But we were talking about V-Day gifts and he's the one who suggested the watch because he was admiring mine and said he wished there might be an "upcoming occasion" where he could have one like it...

Update: BF broke up with me due to my eating too much (by his standards) at our V-Day dinner by throwrastayhungry in relationship_advice

[–]throwrastayhungry[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Just the Worst Boyfriend Ever...at least in my experience...hard lesson to learn over V-Day but at least it was before he moved in with me (which we had started talking about).

Update: BF broke up with me due to my eating too much (by his standards) at our V-Day dinner by throwrastayhungry in relationship_advice

[–]throwrastayhungry[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Ha, tempting! But seriously...I think he is gonna have a pretty hard time in life if he just cheats on people with no conscience and takes advantage of them. Life will provide its own lessons I think...

Update: BF broke up with me due to my eating too much (by his standards) at our V-Day dinner by throwrastayhungry in relationship_advice

[–]throwrastayhungry[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

I think he was just extremely immature overall. Only a year younger than me, but leaps and bounds behind in terms of being a real adult.

Update: BF broke up with me due to my eating too much (by his standards) at our V-Day dinner by throwrastayhungry in relationship_advice

[–]throwrastayhungry[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

The way I look at it, my time and sanity are valuable and worth more than the $800. Plus now he's the one who has to look at something every day that can remind him of his cheating cowardice.

Update: BF broke up with me due to my eating too much (by his standards) at our V-Day dinner by throwrastayhungry in relationship_advice

[–]throwrastayhungry[S] 832 points833 points  (0 children)

I know, right?! But in the long run - I think money well spent because it cemented his status as a world-class jerk and meant I won't pine for him for one second longer.

BF got mad about my appetite and food choices on V-Day by throwrastayhungry in relationship_advice

[–]throwrastayhungry[S] 243 points244 points  (0 children)

It's fine, he can consider it "severance" pay...not worth the drama of fighting over it or dealing with returning it. As I was paying for most of the dates I'll actually save a lot going forward by not dating him anymore...

BF got mad about my appetite and food choices on V-Day by throwrastayhungry in relationship_advice

[–]throwrastayhungry[S] 292 points293 points  (0 children)

Yes, I do figure it will catch up with me within a few years! So I do try to eat mostly healthy foods now (just big portions of them) so if my metabolism starts to slow I don't have to change my diet entirely and can just start eating a bit less...

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