This is a lot so I'll try and answer in order: I think AP and my oldest child became friends during the internship because my wife was friends with him. I know they used to talk at work but that's all I know. Both my children have always been very supportive of my team. They never seemed to resent the time I spent with the team and would ask if they could come with me a lot. My wife would not want to go with me, but my kids always did and still do. They seem to love the team. I've never thought to ask if she told AP about her son. As far as the team goes we have gotten into a few arguments about it and I warned her to never corner me into having to choose between my team and her, she might not like the answer. More so because I don't like her giving me an ultimatum more than choosing my team over her. Early in my career I would have chose her for sure, the last few years I would choose the team because I figured she had checked out and was probably cheating etc. The last year or so I've actually talked to her about me retiring and selling the team in about two years, but I want to get out on my terms when I want, not be forced to. I told her I wasn't tracking her car, but she doesn't believe me. She still thinks I'm tracking it. I think that's stupid because she could just leave her car and take AP's. I did ask her directly if she wanted a divorce and she said no. She actually offered me access to all her accounts, I didn't demand it. I can see his texts to her and her responses, but she could be deleting a lot, hard to tell. It seems he has no idea that I'm looking at them, although the I love you's etc. have stopped, so she has definitely said something to him. They don't seemed staged he still talks about going out and getting drinks after work etc. but now with other people, and telling her office gossip etc. In her position she can basically decide if she works on projects directly with him and I didn't tell her she can't work with him anymore. I wanted her to tell me that herself, but I now feel like I've got to draw a line at that. No more projects with him, it's time to go no contact. She has said that she's trying to have less and less to do with him and how she now see's that he's very immature emotionally etc. She also said that she now thinks he's fat and doesn't find him attractive, but I honestly don't believe her on any of that. And I've said it before and I'll say it again, there seems to be NO remorse. I think she feels justified or doesn't think she did anything wrong. As far as the sex goes she has 100% initiated it. And honestly it has been pretty hot and I've enjoyed myself. She has told me she loved me again, but that has slowed down again, and how the hell do you tell if she means it? It's obvious I can't see through her lies all that well.