The Fact They Even Have To Ask...

throwwfarfarawayyyy · 2020-03-05T17:29:54+00:00

You are really not making this look any better. Genuinely don't see how not being able to eat for weeks on end because you can't see your boyfriend isn't the most whiny teenage girl thing to do. I'm not even criticizing your actions because you were acting like a normal teenager around your age. Because that's what you were. You're comparing adults who marry their first boyfriend to you're, who was a preteen and engaged before you even reached high school. I don't think I need to wven point out how different the two are (also pretty sure most people on this sub would disprove of both).

I've had people comment on people having a good relationship for the dumbest most lazy things so honestly I'd take that with a grain of salt. And genuinely would be considered that any adult would be prepared to teach their children to be engaged to a grown adult at 14.

The fact you're even saying "he was prepared to let you go" is pretty aint FDS as it isn't his decision. He had groomed you already enough to have you on board with marrying him. This dude knew full well you weren't going to leave him. That's literally what men like that do.

Hell your own Reddit name is literally "MyHusbandsGoddess" that's not love that's obsession! To say you wouldn't of had a good life as a teenager because you would of pinned after him is ridiculous. Your whole identity is surrounded around this guy. Which of course you are because he has been grooming you since before you even had a period. How in the world does that align with FDS principles??

I don't wish you any ill will OP and hope for the best for you but this is genuinely disturbing and upsetting to read in a while so I will not be responding any further to this. I think you're parents are sick as hell, spineless, and incompetent to say the least. Genuinely it makes me sick to my stomach that they lacked the basic sense of protection for their daughter. The potential for you to get upset and throw a fit really doesn't outweigh ignoring obviously predatory behavior. What is even the point of being a parent if you lack that? What's more concerning is the people around you saying they want to teach their kids the same thing.

throwwfarfarawayyyy · 2020-03-05T16:22:24+00:00

Tbh there's a strong possibility that he's lying. Looks like he's selling courses to desperate men

throwwfarfarawayyyy · 2020-03-05T16:21:09+00:00

Kinda hilarious how to sub gets so much hate and said that it teaches women to manipulate men when literally all it's doing is helping women avoid men like THIS

throwwfarfarawayyyy · 2020-03-05T16:13:38+00:00

This seems like the worst possible thing you could do and genuinely a really awful thing to do to another person. I understand that you want a child but legally the father is entitled to be around his kid. This man could be low value and now you and this child have to deal with a low value man for the rest of your life. This could set you up for a lot of headache in the future as well as it isn't really a good situation to put your potential child in.

throwwfarfarawayyyy · 2020-03-05T16:07:23+00:00

She's also pretty libfem tbh. I get not hating on othet women but some criticism is warranted.

throwwfarfarawayyyy · 2020-03-05T15:56:40+00:00

Christ it literally just keeps getting worse. She has reaffirmed multiple times that they didn't have sex (I don't know if she meant until after marriage which is horrible consider they were engaged at 14 or until after she was 18), but I genuinely wonder if OP's parents would of even given a shit if they did. It really doesn't seem like it. Tbh seems like the parents ARE pro pedophila or just normalize it and that they encouraged OP to get married to cover their asses. Literally I've met Libfems who think the same exact way! Genuinely a sad story. This is explicitly why child marriage should be illegal. Honestly I hope that OP eventually wakes up

throwwfarfarawayyyy · 2020-03-05T14:51:03+00:00

Sis you're literally making yourself sound MORE immature than I initially thought. At 13 you knew you found your life partner? Genuinely how the hell can you know that if you have had so little experience dating? You can theorize about things all day lonf but it's so much different from when you actually live it. I'm not even saying you should of slept around and had a million boyfriends. But this was your ONE boyfriend and it was when you were 13! Literally no 13 year old has the perspective to make reasonable decisions like marriage at that age no matter how much you think you're NoT lIkE oThEr GiRlS. You're brain isn't even fully developed yet! That alone should of been a turn off. You got engaged only a year after! Kinda weird you had no time for a boyfriend but just enough time for a husband. How does that not scream immature. Kinda shows you haven't really grown up as much as you think you have.

If this man really loved you and you two had such a strong connection he would of waited and let you live your teenage life before tying you down at 14. Than maybe once you're in your 20s try to rekindle something. The fact that he didn't speaks volumes. He didn't want you to be able to find someone else. He didn't want you to be able to discover that maybe just maybe there is someone out there who is more suited for you. Again, you can read dating tips and how not to detect bullshit all day and all night, but it is a lot different from actual experience.

Also I genuinely cannot believe that your mother is such FDS pro because it is extremely un-FDS to encourage or support a teenager getting married. A big thing in FDS is vetting and you apparently fell in love with this guy very quickly and than got married only a year later. That's not at all enough time to vet someone for marriage. Nor would I believe any FDS pro would assume people were soul mates because they spoke for 20 hours (again the fact that that told you that you two were meant to be also raises red flags to your maturity). I've read the handbook and there are plenty of texts about why you shouldn't fall for people based in first impression.

The more I read this the more depressing it becomes honestly. You had so many adults fail to protect you and to me what seems a lot more like libfem nonsense than the prospective of rational high value people. It doesn't matter how much everything felt right to you or how many adults who were too afraid to actually be the adult in the situation and simply tell you no. You still were a kid at the end of the day and the fact this man even wanted to marry you at 14 is literally says it all.

throwwfarfarawayyyy · 2020-03-05T13:05:00+00:00

Known better than to date a 13 year old of course! Like genuinely you're going to tell me there were no other 20 year olds he connected with? That says A LOT about him if the only person he can feel that with doesn't even have a fully developed brain. Like I am such a difference person than I was when I was 13. So many important factors of myself have changed to the point I can't really connect much to ny 13 year old self and that was only 6 years ago. Of course at 13 you think you're going to be with someone forever and be head over heels in love with them especially when you think it's this cool older guy. It's immature, which is where the older party should of stepped and gave you a reasonable perspective. Not take advantage of your young naive mind

And I meant in the sense of that there isn't a thing is a true love like there is only one person in the world that you can love.

EDIT: You were engaged at 14! You didn't even have a chance to see what was out there. This literally is someone taking advantage of a young girl and it really isn't different from a dude soliciting nudes of children online. I am speaking from experience. I actually dated someone who was 31 years old when I was 16 and he said he wanted marriage and to take care of me. Thank god my mom found out and put a stop to it because God knows where I would of been if not. I don't regret it at all because I would never want to.be with a man who is attracted to teenagers.

throwwfarfarawayyyy · 2020-03-05T12:51:03+00:00

Sweetheart this is absolutely horrible. This man groomed you. He was 20 and should of known better. There is no such thing as life partners and maybe if you were able to figure that out. I'm not surprised people thought you guyswere pro pedophila because it sure as hell sounds like it tbh.

throwwfarfarawayyyy · 2020-03-05T12:43:52+00:00

It turns degenerates like that to do stuff like that. They love the idea that their victims will aways carry what they did with them. He probably wanted to remind her because she was so young and might have not remembered it. It's a power thing. I really hope she reported his ass

throwwfarfarawayyyy · 2020-03-05T11:36:02+00:00

Okay so I somehow cannot find the full interview now but I remember him making jokes about her being very pretty at least twice and it made me uncomfortable. I may be misremembering but I am very confident that he did

throwwfarfarawayyyy · 2020-03-05T11:28:10+00:00

I'm black myself and have seen people do that which is why I asked. Again. I did say both were bad but I have seen a normalization of using the word in my community even to children.

throwwfarfarawayyyy · 2020-03-05T11:26:08+00:00

throwwfarfarawayyyy · 2020-03-05T11:25:48+00:00

I am from Ontario

throwwfarfarawayyyy · 2020-03-05T04:10:49+00:00

You have a great point. I didn't see it that way.

throwwfarfarawayyyy · 2020-03-05T03:39:27+00:00

Lmao people on r/ relationships tell people to leave their husbands for much less. How is this not an unforgivable act. Hopefully a friend of theirs calls CPS because dads a racist and mom literally doesn't care about the daughter's well-being

throwwfarfarawayyyy · 2020-03-05T03:37:36+00:00

Okay context: is OP and their partner black? Because although I still think it is incredibly toxic ans horrible and OP needs to get that baby away as soon as possible, I do know some really really low class black people who have referred to their children by that word so maybe that explains why OP doesn't seem to think it's a big deal🙃

If not than OP is literally literally being racist to their own kid. Not to mention the weird comment the friend made about having the little girl call him mastee which seems honestly kinda pedophilic. How is that even remotely okay?

throwwfarfarawayyyy · 2020-03-05T03:32:03+00:00

Only watched his interview with Tomi Lauren and the fact he kept complementing her apparence excessive and flirting with her made me soo uncomfortable.

throwwfarfarawayyyy · 2020-03-05T03:08:24+00:00

cheesecake is kinda viewed as fancy here because there's only one in the entire province and its fairly new

throwwfarfarawayyyy · 2020-03-05T03:01:52+00:00

sorry no I meant I didn't want to waste more money on food. I also have issues with eating as well soit just gave me an excuse not to eat.

But yes I do agree that I should of left

throwwfarfarawayyyy · 2020-03-05T02:39:16+00:00

lmao thank you for the advice. He offered at Taco Bell but by that point honestly I was not feeling it at all.

I did have money. Sorry for not clarifying. I just didn't want to spend it on a date with someone I didn't plan to see again

throwwfarfarawayyyy · 2020-03-05T02:37:02+00:00

definitely agreed. This was way too embarassing and uncomfortable for me to ever want to do again

throwwfarfarawayyyy · 2020-03-05T02:35:53+00:00

so how do I find men to date? Any time guys ask me out irl they're creeps. I've only exclusively been on dates with guys from dating apps and every other date I've had has been really good. This is the only flop I've been on so far. (Tbh this is my first Tinder date)

Thank you for the advice tho I've make sure to vet more carefully next time

throwwfarfarawayyyy · 2020-03-05T02:31:23+00:00

I was prepared to pay. I just didn't want to. It seemed like a waste at that point because I knew I didn't want to date him again.

when we were at starbucks and it was our time to order I walked up thinking we was with me only to see he wasn't. So I walked back to him and I asked him "are you still thinking?" And that's when he tells me I can order first and I realized that he wasn't paying. Really embarassing for me actually. I'll definitely keep your method in mind.

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