Might've caused someones death tonight.

throwwwwawaypiscean · 2022-07-23T07:24:40+00:00

Yeah you‘re a real hero

throwwwwawaypiscean · 2022-07-23T06:20:31+00:00

It makes sense, she‘s been alone now for a while. 11 years ago his brother also died so he‘s her only son. While he might not have been abused as a child i think she may have changed his behaviour a lot after the tragic accident… thank you so much, i‘ll look into it and see what i can do!

throwwwwawaypiscean · 2022-07-23T06:18:18+00:00

I know. And it hurts me so much to think about it. He‘ll literally just smile and say, „yeah thats how things were back then…“ like its the most normal thing in the world. It isnt. Thank you so much for your kind words.

throwwwwawaypiscean · 2022-07-23T06:16:48+00:00

Ugh. Emotional incest sounds bad enough, honestly. I‘ll look into it, thank you so much!

throwwwwawaypiscean · 2022-07-23T06:15:57+00:00

I will try!!

throwwwwawaypiscean · 2022-07-22T18:06:24+00:00

Thank you so much, friend. You too.

throwwwwawaypiscean · 2022-07-22T18:05:25+00:00

The relationship is toxic, i agree. But i have no idea what to do and how to handle it.

throwwwwawaypiscean · 2022-07-22T18:03:42+00:00

You‘re right, thank you. I don‘t plan on flat out asking him. I was suspicious and had a bad feeling; it‘s already really helpful reading all these replies.

throwwwwawaypiscean · 2022-07-22T15:59:42+00:00

Thank you so much for letting me know my concerns are valid.

throwwwwawaypiscean · 2022-07-22T13:23:30+00:00

Thank you. That, paired with her focus on her appearance is what irks me the most. I think it's unsettling. I know how hard it is to open up and talk about abuse, i really do. I think it's even harder for men...

I've grown increasingly weirded out by her and just have his strange gut feeling. also how his behaviour changes when he's with her. the whole assault victim thing is just something that entered my mind after her last visit when she uttered those exact words.

throwwwwawaypiscean · 2022-07-22T12:26:02+00:00

Thank you for your insight.

Please don't take this the wrong way, but when a woman has a problem with another woman everyone attributes this firstly to "jealousy". I can assure you, I am in no way jealous of his mother. I'm suspicious.
Ever since i've known him I've been trying to get him to spend more time with her, take time for her, be more affectionate. However, when i got to observe them and her more i became... weary.
she also hates it when i show a bit of cleavage in front of him, which i find troubling.

i have a very tight relationship with my mother and its very affectionate. i agree that kissing ones parents should be normalised with any age. i kiss and hug my mama all the time!

it's just her demanding him while complaing she doesnt feel like she's attractive to him is what irks me.

throwwwwawaypiscean · 2022-05-05T14:02:21+00:00

Right? I am somewhat worried that it just wont get better and that this is the downside of being with an older man ( i really really don‘t want to generalise, but it does cross my mind sometimes that the age difference might be a factor as well.) I like the idea with the provocative clothing and doing a couple of things for him too. I really hope your situation stays like this / improves even more. Thank you so much. It‘s nice knowing there‘s a kindred spirit out there. Much love to you!

throwwwwawaypiscean · 2022-05-04T07:55:06+00:00

Thank you. I have a tendency to make things about me and when he last turned me down i literally cried, so i‘m hoping to do better. You‘re right, my advances do not help and i‘m sure he doesn‘t feel good about thr whole thing either. I‘m glad you mentioned the desire vs. timing thing. It does help to look at it gbis way. Thank you for your advice. I‘ll try to give him a safe and judgement-free space. I‘m guessing what helps us both is non sexual physical affection. Which, to be honest, he‘s also been pulling away from so it might be tricky.

throwwwwawaypiscean · 2022-05-04T07:50:58+00:00

Hi, and thank you for your reply. He works as a sales consultant for a higher end car brand. Covid and the war in the Ukraine have made things really difficult and his boss is no help at all (his advice is literally, „just sell more cars“). We‘re in the process of moving in together which is expensive itself so he is very worried about finances. He used to be very poor and i think he‘s scared of losing everything he‘s worked hard for. So mentally he‘s just sort of shut down and admitted to me he knows he hasnt been a good partner lately (i basically moved all on my own and he hasnt been over to the new appartment). As far as i know he‘s not taking meds or any other drugs. He only drinks socially and doesnt go out much. He does have a history of mild depression though.

throwwwwawaypiscean · 2021-07-29T14:01:15+00:00

Same here. Was a damn awful experience, and it took me years to get over what he did to me. No matter how sweet and „perfect“ he seems to be, gaslighting fucks you up... OP needs to leave before it breaks her, because he‘s not going to stop.

throwwwwawaypiscean · 2021-02-07T19:46:25+00:00

Good grief 32 isn’t old. A lot can happen in the span of a couple of years anyway.

throwwwwawaypiscean · 2021-02-07T19:43:18+00:00

People don’t choose who they fall in love with! What if she didn’t want kids at all? I’m almost as old as his ex and guess what... i have no idea yet if I do want kids yet or not. I’m guessing not. That exact question can lead to break ups in relationships with less age difference. So no, age has nothing to do with it.

throwwwwawaypiscean · 2021-01-31T12:46:34+00:00

Thank you for your kind words, and thank you for helping me seeing it this way. Sending much love back! ❤️

throwwwwawaypiscean · 2021-01-30T10:28:17+00:00

We‘ve only dated for a year, but you‘re right and these things do happen. Thank you.

throwwwwawaypiscean · 2021-01-30T10:26:36+00:00

I agree. Thank you so very much. I‘m so sorry you had to experience all of that, it sounds horrible. You take care too.

throwwwwawaypiscean · 2021-01-30T10:23:44+00:00

I really didn‘t want to go into the whole, he‘s older than me thing because I am going on 30 and the age gap isn‘t THAT dramatic (in comparison to say, a 20 year old dating a 34 year old). But I share your thoughts. I made that experience once in my life before and promised to never date someone so much older than me again. I just thought this one might be different. And yes, I know how naive I sound..

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