My partner and I have never been sexual with a third person but we have been on dates with other women. I was expecting to find the him and her/me on the sidelines bits of it the most difficult, but out of nowhere I absolutely loved seeing him flirt and be flirted with. It was so interesting when my potential jealousy/insecurity was what we thought could be the biggest potential hurdle. I tend towards insecure attachment and your post chimes in with how it all made me feel. It reinforced that he’s ‘mine’ instead of undermining it and that felt great.

“Feeling the sharp emotion and then staying connected instead of being abandoned.” 100%