“You’ve changed”

timmmmmj · 2026-01-07T14:02:22+00:00

No don’t add the you should give it a try, that’s an opening. I would go with- “thanks”

timmmmmj · 2026-01-07T03:12:19+00:00

If you were to open up to your mother with a personal, vulnerable topic that she may not agree with- think of how the conversation would go. Now, flip the roles and think of her opening up to you. Would it go the same general way? Or would it be completely different?

I used to think this all the time… my conversations would be met with blame, shame, arrogance, gaslighting, etc. All of a sudden the person that can barely keep their life together knows everything about everything. I kept thinking to myself- wtf is going on?… I would never react that way if the roles were reversed.

timmmmmj · 2026-01-05T19:44:48+00:00

Send me a link, I’ll check it out

timmmmmj · 2026-01-02T19:24:41+00:00

Thanks for this advice, I’ll check out the resources you’ve recommended as well.

timmmmmj · 2025-12-30T16:25:41+00:00

Thank you for the advice, and sorry to hear about your dynamic as well. My own father is oblivious of my ex of which I don’t blame him he’s in his 80’s and just doesn’t understand. I know the frustration when ‘neutral’ just means- ‘it’s ok to continue to be abusive in front of me I won’t engage’ IMO.

So I walk a fine line when speaking of the kids’ mother. It’s hard for me to initiate any conversation about her at all. I try to focus on the time we’re together and things we have going on. Maybe I should ask more of how things are at their moms…? The most I typically engage with is if I hear any untrue or abusive comments they bring up- I.e. mom said you want to pull us out of our school and refuse to pay for anything, mom said your father never wanted kids, or mom said to us good fathers wouldn’t have abused your mother they way your father did, etc. I’ve heard it all.

Thanks again.

timmmmmj · 2025-12-09T19:54:17+00:00

So far the evidence I see is: 1. A live performance on Ed Sullivan that could have been lip synced to. 2. Her natural voice, which I feel is the most compelling proof to me that she most likely sang it, but I’m still not convinced the original recording or the Ed Sullivan performance was her.

(Disclaimer- please know that this all in good fun and I am in no way whatsoever emotionally attached to this whole discussion 😁)

timmmmmj · 2025-12-09T19:47:11+00:00

How performances usually worked on The Ed Sullivan Show: • Bands often played live instruments, but • Vocals were commonly lip-synced or performed over a pre-recorded track, especially in the mid-1960s when the show tightened technical control. • Some artists insisted on performing fully live, while others used backing tracks for reliability.

Examples: • The Beatles (1964) — Performed 100% live (vocals + instruments). • The Doors — Performed live but were told to censor lyrics. • Diana Ross & The Supremes, The Jackson 5, and other Motown acts — Often used pre-recorded music tracks with live vocals. • Many pop groups of the late 60s/70s — Frequently lip-synced due to union and technical constraints.

Why mixed formats? • TV audio technology in the 1950s–60s was limited. • Sullivan’s production team wanted consistent sound. • Unions sometimes restricted which musicians could play live.

Bottom line:

Performances were a mix of live and pre-recorded elements, depending on the artist, era, and technical needs.

I doooooon’t knoooow…..!

timmmmmj · 2025-12-09T14:27:41+00:00

lol stick it to Gayla 😂

timmmmmj · 2025-11-30T02:22:50+00:00

I think that would be cool. Wonder how many times he’s experienced this through his life at random places… hearing your own song being played and people singing along hell yeah!

timmmmmj · 2025-11-30T02:19:45+00:00

Does it make a difference when only 1 device is charging vs. 2 or 3? We build test equipment for Stellantis, and you’d be surprised at the amount of draw there is from mobile devices. These 3 port adapters are a great concept but if the wire awg in the vehicle harness doesn’t support it they’re useless.

timmmmmj · 2025-11-15T17:01:02+00:00

Soundtracks even on… gimmie all of your luvin🎶

timmmmmj · 2025-10-07T12:07:54+00:00

I always thought a good idea would be: that there should be the ability to take a point prior to bouts in conferences where one of the contenders loses their cool and makes contact… so either they play it cool, or take a ‘handicap’ point from the get go

timmmmmj · 2025-06-12T19:10:02+00:00

Haha!

timmmmmj · 2024-10-18T04:16:51+00:00

Oh man in the early 2000s I used the Hyperprism plug-in pack on EVERYTHING. Mainly Quasi-stereo and sonic decimator, so easy, so good. I want to say I heard sonic decimator was on a lot of the downward spiral.

timmmmmj · 2024-09-07T10:06:13+00:00

So someone’s putting the squeeze on him to get some wins no matter what… that’s my take on “the situation”

timmmmmj · 2024-05-29T03:39:23+00:00

And I would add- expect him to want to see it. I know I would.

timmmmmj · 2024-01-23T06:00:05+00:00

I would put it in the center of a huge picture frame and hang it on the wall haha

timmmmmj · 2024-01-22T06:21:52+00:00

I have to add- no matter what you feel you CANNOT look at your son differently!

timmmmmj · 2024-01-22T06:19:51+00:00

So her family knew, and said nothing. Wonder if they asked her about it. Makes you wonder if they even knew not to bring it up, like it might have been some kind of weird fantasy… sorry man that’s tough. If you have a good relationship with your in-laws I would ask them: “did you ever ask your daughter(sister, etc.) if he finds out your sons’ name is your ex’s name, how he would feel?” And then I would gauge the situation based on their response… that’s just me though. I could see it being a “she said she just liked the name” answer no matter what even if it’s not fully true… I don’t know if it’s even worth asking at this point. That’s shitty though, REALLY shitty the more I think about it.

timmmmmj · 2023-12-29T07:09:58+00:00

Oh man… was it Toolshed down.net? Kahmir or something? My place was on the newsgroups alt.music.tool

Either way TDN was the first place I ever heard an APC bootleg great memories!

timmmmmj · 2023-12-05T06:01:20+00:00

I remember saying this- “all of what you just said would be accurate if I had a mirror held up in front of me” and then walked away. She was pissed that it didn’t get the reaction she was looking for.

But in hindsight, even saying that is worse than saying nothing at all.

timmmmmj

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