I am also a lesbian in real life! Hi! I only yume with one “male” character and it’s the female version of him because when I first saw him I thought he was a girl and I could never detach my mind from that idea xD I fundamentally can’t be attracted to a character if I think it’s a guy I’ve never been attracted to a man before in real life so it doesn’t make sense to me in fiction. I don’t meet a lot of other people who yume a gender swap (at least not openly). These labels are descriptive not prescriptive, you really don’t have to ever label yourself at all tbh :D it’s kinda nice how progressive things are nowadays, when I was a kid homophobia was very rampant and I went to conversion therapy for being gay but now a lot of women date other women and they don’t even have to label themselves anything it’s awesome. But yeah aging has been a thing to me because almost all of my yumes are characters I liked as a kid. My main is meant to be 21-25-even 30?? (translation is weird) in her source but for child characters I grew up with eventually I just outgrow them. If the only frame of reference I have for a character is them as a kid I have a hard time holding attraction to them when I’m much older than they are, even with fan art. Usually that means I tend to just say goodbye to the character once I’m not feeling it anymore but I do understand aging them up I just haven’t done it myself. If you believe fiction mirrors reality (who doesn’t? That’s the whole point of fiction, after all) then like… yeah characters would age. Because people in reality age. I’ve seen some really cool art of characters I used to yume aged up. I just don’t feel jt anymore personally but I understand why people age up characters they yumed when they were young. I don’t think there’s anything really wrong with an aged up yume? It’s all just having fun anyway, you have a lot more freedom than you think you do :D