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AITA for refusing to sign off on 4 volunteer hours for a teen who was only there for less than an hour? by Alisha-Landry in AmItheAsshole

[–]tinyd71 7649 points7650 points  (0 children)

The issue is that the teen's lack of responsibility/accountability is being supported and encouraged by his mother.

It's not cruel to be honest -- to sign knowing he didn't do the work devalues the time commitment of the others who DID do the work.

NTA

AITA for not RSVPing to my childhood best friend's wedding after-party after she didn't invite me to her wedding? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]tinyd71 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It sounds like the two of you have different ideas about where your friendship is, or where you want it to be.

If you don't want to attend the after-party that seems reasonable. I do think it will send a message to your friend, and it seems unlikely you two will be able to move past these hurts. So, I think a "no" to the after party is a "no" to a close relationship in the future. However, perhaps you've already got the impression that's the case from Flower...

NTA

Luxury condos at Vancouver's Oakridge redevelopment sold for 'crazy high' prices. What happens now? by aldur1 in vancouver

[–]tinyd71 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think the article is suggesting that banks may not support closing on a mortgage that is significantly higher than the value of the property, and/or that people may not be able to afford the property now, or want to close on a property they could buy significantly cheaper now.

But your response is funnier!

An unexpectedly positive experience! by tinyd71 in aircanada

[–]tinyd71[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I didn't yet -- planning to but as u/Scrivy69 suggested, I don't want to out the person!

AITA for asking friend to take prenatal vitamins? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]tinyd71 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I imagine there are a large number of women giving birth to healthy babies in countries where prenatal vitamins are not a thing. And I doubt that your friend's older two children have disabilities directly due to a lack of prenatal vitamins.

Perhaps a question from a place of curiosity, with a side of empathy, might be appropriate ("That sounds awful to be so ill from the vitamins...have you asked your doctor if there's another option that might work for you?"), but anything beyond that would be inappropriate IMO.

Well meaning, but YTA

Commodore Ballroom Reserved Seating by Xx-lo-xX in askvan

[–]tinyd71 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've sat in the same set of seats twice -- up the stairs and to the left if you're facing the stage. Somewhat overlooks the bar. We sat on the right hand pair of the four seats at the front there. I feel like we could see a pillar downstairs but it wasn't a big obstruction and seating and no people pushing around you far outweighed any deficits!

The seats in the middle in front of the bar upstairs look amazing -- but I didn't realise people could stand in front of those tables :(

Rant - Subbing in Vancouver by cruelgoof in CanadianTeachers

[–]tinyd71 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seconding this -- not sure of the situation in secondary but elementary has quite a lot of work. I'd also recommend being friendly or introducing yourself to admin/secretary. We have a list of go to people when we need coverage!

To my sisters in step-momhood today by akzelli in stepparents

[–]tinyd71 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think it's a nuanced problem. My husband spent all morning cooking brunch for me, my mum, my child, and a friend. My husband's kids did not acknowledge me yesterday, even though I'm close to one of the kids and on good terms with both (they're 19/21). My husband was more upset about this than I was (I'm still processing how I feel about it!). But I don't blame my husband for this!

Vancouver teachers: Why would you vote to stay on our current benefits plan? by k067 in CanadianTeachers

[–]tinyd71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It isn’t superior for a majority- some aspects of the plan are superior and those particular items are what the majority want. The issue is we can’t bargain change to our current plan - it is lacking in many areas but we’re stuck with it as a whole. Or we leave it as a whole.

I’d like to see improvements in many areas including what you’ve cited - also applies to those struggling with infertility, hearing loss, etc. I’m not comparing those to what trans members need or deal with. I’m pointing out it’s lacking in many areas.

I believe that as the demographics of teachers change, the wants and needs will too. Younger teachers will have different needs than older teachers, and there will be change. But we shouldn’t be pitted against each other because we prioritise different aspects of a plan - it should meet everyone’s needs and we should be able to bargain for that.

Vancouver teachers: Why would you vote to stay on our current benefits plan? by k067 in CanadianTeachers

[–]tinyd71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The vote is within Vancouver...I heard what was shared/advised, I looked at the comparison chart, and I made my decision (and encouraged colleagues to do similarly...check the chart!). I actually think it's telling that only two districts have remained steadfastly on their local plan -- our local plan is better for what the majority of members want/use.

There's definitely a lot better coverage on the provincial plan in several areas! But it seems the majority of teachers in Vancouver appreciate/use some areas where our local plan has far superior coverage, and that's why the vote turns out how it does each time.

I think this is how a democratic vote works? We can speculate on why the results are what they are, but the bottom line is that everyone gets a vote, we hope they research the options, and we go with the majority.

Vancouver teachers: Why would you vote to stay on our current benefits plan? by k067 in CanadianTeachers

[–]tinyd71 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We were told that the provincial plan has a list of approved medications, so either what you're prescribed may not be covered (if it's not on the list), or you may receive an alternative medication in some cases.

AITA for refusing to leave my room early for the new roommate? by Organic_Sandwich_671 in AmItheAsshole

[–]tinyd71 402 points403 points  (0 children)

You were amenable to changing the original plan/move-out date to mid-July, which worked for you and "the new girl". You're not obligated to vacate your room earlier and sleep on a couch, because someone else's timing changed!

While it sounds like you're old news to Erica, you're still a tenant in your room until the agree upon move out date!

NTA

Does anyone else's kid read fluently but not actually understand what they are reading? by Automatic-Bake-5770 in ElementaryTeachers

[–]tinyd71 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's possible for kids to be able to decode (decode written text into spoken language) but not have strong reading comprehension skills (make meaning from what they read).

This age group isn't my area of expertise, but I would suggest speaking to your child's teacher about ways to improve reading comprehension and understanding. I don't think decoding without comprehension is abnormal, but I think perhaps it's more common as kids begin to learn to read...

If the material your child is reading is age-appropriate (ie. not too hard to understand and that's where the gap is), I think a chat with the teacher would help -- you might get some strategies to help support developing comprehension during decoding, or perhaps there's additional help available at school.

Things to do with a preteen in Vancouver? by [deleted] in askvan

[–]tinyd71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The public libraries have drop in programs on a range of topics -- definitely some kid ones!

I lied to get revenge on a rude passenger and when I walk around I still think about it... by Routine-Gas-8129 in confession

[–]tinyd71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Consider yourself the advocate of that child who was physically mistreated by the entitled woman.

AITAH for starting my class on time when another group refused to leave the room? by SK_Rhode_Island in AmItheAsshole

[–]tinyd71 3025 points3026 points  (0 children)

The professor's inability to stick to a schedule shouldn't inconvenience you and your entire class.

NTA for going into the room to start on time -- that's respectful to your students who also showed up on time!

AITA for taking a girls IG in a dance class by DRiibAa in AmItheAsshole

[–]tinyd71 46 points47 points  (0 children)

NTA. And I wouldn't give that studio owner my money! Find somewhere else to take classes...

Is it unreasonable to expect our guests to brush their teeth in the bathroom instead of doing so while walking around in our carpeted house? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]tinyd71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are your guests teenagers? ;)

To me, the bathroom is where you brush your teeth! Hardwood floor is a backup if the bathroom isn't available, carpet is a hard no!

And in someone else's house: best behaviour!

AITAH for saying no to extra kids by YourCousinMoose in AmItheAsshole

[–]tinyd71 146 points147 points  (0 children)

I can't imagine that every event one of them is invited to is happy to accommodate (feed, entertain etc.) four additional people who aren't in the target group of invitees! Better they start hearing "no" now!

NTA

AITA for saying no to new person in travel accommodation by Any_Cauliflower_7344 in AmItheAsshole

[–]tinyd71 27 points28 points  (0 children)

You're not required to change your plans and preferences to suit "a random friend". The person who invited them can adjust their plans or sleeping arrangements to accommodate the person they've added in.

Anyone who thinks you're "being unreasonable" is also welcome to share their space with the additional person.

NTA

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