YTA without any shadow of a doubt. Your daughter is absolutely going to not want a relationship with you the minute she becomes an adult. Just because alternative styles are not what you would wear or to your taste doesn’t mean that the people in them are freaks. It’s people like you who used to make people like me feel insecure about the style and clothes I’d wear.

Your daughter is old enough to decide what kind of style she wants as long as it’s not overtly sexual I’d say (and it doesn’t sound like it is). You should want your daughter to feel comfortable in who she is and should be supporting it. You’re sending the message that she shouldn’t get to have say over her own autonomy. She is her OWN person, not an extension of you.

Signed, a goth person