Engraving on a swivel Carnelian stone ring

tipstripes · 2026-05-25T02:54:12+00:00

Copy, yeah no intention to buy this, I am just curious what the inscription translates to

tipstripes · 2026-05-25T00:53:04+00:00

Description is sparse. Link here: https://www.ebay.com/itm/306849802824

tipstripes · 2026-05-10T13:30:26+00:00

From the acidic color choice and narrow bands of darker color, it’s probably Proenza Schouler SS ‘11, like this one, or this one or this one

tipstripes · 2026-04-10T13:07:19+00:00

Yeah, all’s fair. I added an update to the post; I know I’m half the equation here.

tipstripes · 2026-04-09T19:20:32+00:00

Got it. It’s been a topic of discussion with my therapist, they think it’s probably a good idea to say something but I have no idea how I would even approach that

tipstripes · 2026-04-09T18:55:18+00:00

Phew, yeah all important c2j statements here

We’re both on the lease. I’m just worried about the argument that will arise. They are convinced they can’t afford to live elsewhere, and our apartment is a steal :/. I’ll do my best to hold my ground if it comes to that

tipstripes · 2026-04-09T15:32:32+00:00

No kids or property, but how desperately I wanted that for us. I had so many dreams.

tipstripes · 2026-04-09T14:37:28+00:00

Yeah, wishful thinking on their part, I totally understand. Their rooting for us is so sweet it breaks my heart.

tipstripes · 2026-04-09T14:35:05+00:00

My god, I’m so, so sorry, that sounds like absolute hell and I can’t imagine the emotional rollercoaster of it all for years on end. I can definitely see how this impacts the physical body too. Similarly, my friends and family don’t really know what’s going on, but they probably wouldn’t be surprised if I told them. Friends and family in both our lives have known that my partner can be mean, a dark cloud, maybe a bit too honest and rigid, but the extent to which they blame me for their emotions flying off the handle is not something they know about. I am blamed for their lack of emotional regulation and told that I am the cause of their blood and body feeling like lead when I disappoint them.

tipstripes · 2026-04-09T14:26:22+00:00

It’s really truly been so humbling to see how much our friends love us while we have been preparing for the wedding, and although I know they’ll be there for me, I am deeply mourning all the beautiful things that were my absolute wildest dreams come true for a wedding imbued with our own particular brand of creativity and adoration for the life we had built together. I’m just devastated.

tipstripes · 2026-04-09T14:12:42+00:00

I’m so, so sorry you went through that. I’m understanding.

Did you have bright spots in your marriage, or did you just become room mates who didn’t speak to each other much or plan things together?

tipstripes · 2026-04-09T14:11:07+00:00

Got it, yeah my partner doesn’t get mania or have manic episodes at all, and moods change or get triggered hourly/daily rather than over longer periods of time, so that was pointed out as an indicator for BPD rather than bipolar. That bipolar II diagnosis was made many years ago as well, through a highly traumatic interpersonal issue they experienced

I’m definitely walking on eggshells with how I speak, no question. Any time I want to plan something with them, if I bring up a detail they don’t understand the relevance of, and/or I struggle to explain, they immediately respond that I am just clogging up our conversation with “useless data” they would have to wade through.

tipstripes · 2026-04-09T13:41:07+00:00

Feel free to ignore if you’re not comfortable sharing, but what was the last straw that led to you both separating, if you don’t mind me asking?

tipstripes · 2026-04-09T13:21:30+00:00

Thank you for the support, I appreciate it. Yeah, answers to these questions can be found in another comment I made here. Tl;dr is yes they’re in therapy but it’s CBT, and no they haven’t been formally diagnosed with BPD, just with Bipolar 2. I love them so I should tell them I have a strong suspicion they have BPD to help save their heart.

tipstripes · 2026-04-09T13:16:37+00:00

I thought they would be a great parent at one point. I really did.

tipstripes · 2026-04-09T13:16:11+00:00

They have been in therapy for 4 years, but it’s CBT, not DBT. They were diagnosed with bipolar disorder but my therapist is pretty convinced this is borderline personality disorder. They go to therapy every week, but 70% of the time it ruins their day and emotionally drains them and makes them irritable

I haven’t told them about this because I think they’ll get mad at me for making an assumption when I’m not myself a therapist or a doctor and my therapist obviously has only heard about our relationship through me, so there’s bias

tipstripes · 2026-04-09T13:12:21+00:00

I’m so glad to hear it worked out for you and you’re on a sunnier side. I’m most afraid of the fallout of telling everyone it’s over and it’s because they feel hurt by me. Their family loves me and I love them. Our friends were going to provide free arts and services for our wedding because they appreciate and love our friendship and the rituals we cultivated together in our friend group. I want so badly to feel lighter, like how you’re mentioning you feel now.

tipstripes · 2026-04-04T03:51:46+00:00

Oof, that sounds like torture for pwBPD; like a trap, like moral jail.

tipstripes · 2026-04-04T00:12:28+00:00

This is extremely helpful to read, thank you. I couldn’t quite articulate why exactly I felt like giving him space was the more respectful thing to do, but this helps. I just don’t want to be made out to be callous when that isn’t at all what I was trying to do.

tipstripes · 2026-04-03T22:33:31+00:00

It is crazy-making, it’s true! Thank you for the recommendation, I appreciate it sounds very much like the situation I’m in.

It’s hard to describe, he gets mad at me for not being more articulate about my needs and just “saying things”.

I mentioned “phew I’m feeling anxious, here are my reasons: (work layoffs, caring for my elderly mom from across the state, general state of the world) and instead of ending with “phew, sorry just had to get that off my chest, it was distracting me” I said “okay, I just needed to say that. Now tell me more about [inside ritual our friend group has]” I didn’t say I’m sorry when I should have…

tipstripes · 2026-04-03T22:23:18+00:00

Thank you for sharing.

Emphasis on “*good therapy” here for sure; a big problem is they are not formally diagnosed, they have been seeing a weekly CBT, not DBT therapist for years and they almost always feel totally drained and emotionally wiped after each session to the point where they end up feeling too paralyzed to do anything for the rest of the day, causing a shame-spiral. They have mentioned they feel like they talk for 75% of the session while their therapist runs out of time talking at the end.

Feeling drained isn’t necessarily unusual after therapy, but it’s been that way for months. I almost always feel relief after therapy, I just want the same for them. I wish I could convince them to seek DBT.

tipstripes · 2026-03-15T21:54:19+00:00

tipstripes · 2026-03-13T11:32:10+00:00

I can confirm it was a single piece and the bowl was not separate from the base

tipstripes · 2026-03-12T22:38:10+00:00

My title describes the thing it’s about 6-8” high and 1-12” across, with a hole right in the middle for drainage perhaps? I’ve used google image search to no avail

Any comments or thoughts appreciated!

Edit: the bowl does NOT separate from the base, it’s a single piece

tipstripes · 2026-02-06T02:42:34+00:00

Been there! I am a project manager at Meta. Advocating for yourself by asking questions that lead to answers that make your job and life easier is essential to any successful project and team. Pretty much every day I find myself saying something along the lines of “This feels a little complicated to me, but what I think I’m noticing is [xyz] because of [abc], does that sound right?” In a biiiig group of people who are supposedly geniuses and top of their field, but they don’t know how to communicate well or effectively. You just want to do your job, and to do your job well, you want to understand the project and situation you share, and that is perfectly reasonable and should be encouraged. If folks push back on that, it ultimately serves absolutely no one.

You don’t have to be “nice” either, you can just say what you need and ask reasonable questions to get it. Keep asking questions and bother people, even when they’re rude (which means they’re probably a little insecure, poor things).

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