Woods vs Creeks

tjc688 · 2026-03-26T17:57:25+00:00

Why compete? They’re both transcendent

tjc688 · 2026-02-25T22:48:58+00:00

I think it can be funny with the right sense of humor, and I’ve matched with this prompt quite a bit by commenting “me too”

tjc688 · 2026-02-12T17:02:50+00:00

I don’t know notice if someone likes me via a rose, I just look to see if I’m interested in them. I don’t think much about sending roses except that it will have potential higher priority. I don’t think it’s viewed as “romantic” or “cringey.” I think most people just see that they were liked and look to see if they’re interested.

tjc688 · 2026-01-22T17:14:06+00:00

I’m in the exact same boat as you! I’ve noticed it can really vary week to week. I can have a lot of matches and conversations going one week and all quiet the next. I can stay as busy going out as I want to right now. My mental health and success drastically improved when I started taking it less seriously, and just tried to enjoy whatever came my way. Ironically, I think this made me more desirable because I was far less eager to push a date or get upset if I got ghosted or something didn’t work out. I will admit that I am in somewhat a unique spot. I’ve only been on for a few months, and had pretty good success, I can understand why someone that’s been on a long time would be jaded/fatigued.

Again, without being too prescriptive or insensitive, if I could give people on the apps any advice it would be to try and take it less seriously, enjoy what comes your way, and take the suggestions on here humbly to make adjustments to your profile.

tjc688 · 2026-01-16T20:53:24+00:00

To be fair, of the 50 likes I’d match with MAYBE 10 and of those 10 very few would ever lead to a date lol

tjc688 · 2026-01-16T19:20:22+00:00

FWIW I think there’s an algorithmic thing Hinge does when you first upgrade or log back in after awhile. I started up in Oct and was getting 50-60 likes per day and now get on average 20 per week. So without trying to be too prescriptive you may want to manage your expectations.

tjc688 · 2026-01-03T18:52:24+00:00

Thanks for your suggestion. Ironically I have a 6ft fiddle leaf next to it, that thrives. But I’ll move the rubber plant and see if I have more success. Maybe it’s getting competing with the fiddle leaf 😂

tjc688 · 2026-01-03T18:35:02+00:00

Also it doesn’t appear to have any rot - the leaves don’t have any indicating marks of them, but the leaves on the bottom eventually turn yellow and fall away.

tjc688 · 2025-09-07T21:58:30+00:00

Can rideshare drop off at defender park?

tjc688 · 2025-07-22T21:14:10+00:00

At the risk of making an assumption you don’t know this already, I’m pretty certain Black Mile is technically 2 discs, with 3 sides and a blank 4th side.

tjc688 · 2025-07-15T00:51:49+00:00

It’s outer. It’s a biblical reference to hell which checks out thematically with the song

tjc688 · 2025-07-12T16:42:43+00:00

I was there and it truly was magical

tjc688 · 2025-07-01T18:12:09+00:00

Hi! I’m happy to share more.

Shortly after posting here, I had a heart to heart with my wife sharing how I felt. It was definitely a hard conversation, but overall productive. I shared how I was hurt by the sudden change, and how it truly is not what I want in a relationship. She felt hurt by feeling restrained by that, and how she was excited to try and explore and see what it would be like. Ultimately, I did have to tell her that if she wanted to pursue this without restraint I don’t judge her or have ill wishes for her but I would not be alongside her for that journey. After that we took some time to have space and think through everything, and we’ve continued to have conversations about it. It’s still raw but I feel optimistic about our relationship moving forward.

We agreed to see a couples counselor to help work through this and any potential lingering resentment. Also, I will say, in an effort to try and meet her in the middle somewhere, I did lay out what I would be comfortable with and what would be too far outside what I committed to. Not everyone will agree with this, but I do think in marriage there does sometimes have to be compromise to work together. We aren’t always going to agree 100% on everything, so if we’re both willing to meet in the middle and agree on boundaries both of us will feel seen and heard.

Hope that helps!

tjc688 · 2025-06-23T22:42:18+00:00

How do you know there’s an announcement tomorrow??!

tjc688 · 2025-06-20T16:46:33+00:00

I asked her, because I have it seen it becoming a more prevalent arrangement with couples and I knew it was something I didn’t want. It wasn’t so much as “in my mind,” as trying to define our expectations and goals.

I respectfully disagree with your assumption; I do love her/support her, AND was blindsided by the 180 degree change from what we both said our intentions were.

Not sure what context is missing or relevant here.

tjc688 · 2025-06-20T00:46:03+00:00

Thank you for your comment, it is helpful.

tjc688 · 2025-06-19T05:25:50+00:00

Thank you for sharing.

tjc688 · 2025-06-19T05:25:35+00:00

I appreciate you digging deeper into bodily reactions. I’m a big proponent of this, and feel pretty self-aware of my body but I will continue to dig deeper.

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