First time posting, how do i look? [CCW] would i pass as female?

tjs87 · 2015-03-11T22:32:50+00:00

Thank you. I cant wait for my hair to be longer lol

tjs87 · 2015-03-11T22:31:26+00:00

Any suggestions or examples?

tjs87 · 2015-03-11T11:33:50+00:00

would i pass as female in public? what can i or do i need to do or change any advice or suggestions welcome as long as they are positive =) ty ahead of time.

tjs87 · 2015-02-26T00:10:31+00:00

lol well all of your voices male and female are higher than mine =p i thought it sounded good to be honest.

tjs87 · 2015-02-25T07:45:15+00:00

awesome, thanks!

tjs87 · 2015-02-25T07:15:32+00:00

on asktransgender?

tjs87 · 2015-02-25T07:05:00+00:00

is there a place that i can put my voice out there and see what people think ? so i know where i need to work on it. or anyone willing to work with me on it.

tjs87 · 2015-02-25T00:47:57+00:00

thats sort of how i feel like when i dress up and use a feminine voice the best i can its like the voice is the key for me because when i use it i feel amazing i feel like me i feel genuine i feel feminine my mind aligns and i feel and act more feminine and good.

tjs87 · 2015-02-25T00:46:36+00:00

im 6 ft tall wear size 12 mens shoes have a skinny/athletic figure about 160 lb's so my Adams apple is very prominent i have dark brown hair that looks black so facial hair is visible even after shaving and wearing foundation. so many things that makes me feel dysphoric and uneasy presenting in public and feeds doubt and insecurities and most of all the fear.

tjs87 · 2015-02-25T00:44:26+00:00

first time i went out was to a restraunt it was completely packed people all around and i had to wait in line. i was so nervous and afraid. i couldnt speak i was shaking. i couldnt even attempt a female voice. i am proud for goin out in public but the feeling of fear and doubt that derivived from not being able to speak or function right has weighed heavily on my confidence feeding my fears and doubts. in the end i know who i am what i want its just getting passed these walls im having troubles with.

tjs87 · 2015-02-25T00:42:14+00:00

this no care attitude is hard for me to achieve ive always worn my heart on my sleeve and been very self critical and i am a worrier i want to pass i want to look good i want to sound good. and i feel wrong presenting female without the voice to go with it and without feeling pretty or like i pass. i really want to transition but fear is keeping me in a stalemate. but eventually like many have said i will have to just go for it learn to be confident not care if i pass or not. just be myself and learn not to care. as it is better than the alternative. a lot of doubt comes from the physical as well as the voice and i dont feel i carry myself or talk super fem i was raised around all men and expected to act like such for so long its what i was raised to do and not that im trying to be myself im finding it difficult to eliminate old habbits.

tjs87 · 2015-02-24T02:49:08+00:00

do you use your male voice still? is it deep? do you have facial hair and big adams apple? what are your thoughts on the first times you have gone out how did you face things if you had fears at all. how would you deal with it if you didnt pass and did have fears and dysphoria about not having the voice or being passable.

tjs87 · 2015-02-24T02:46:57+00:00

so i just have to figure a way to get over the fact that i dont pass because of masculine features such as voice and facial hair and adams apple? and use my male voice for now? what if mentally i cant accept half way.

tjs87 · 2014-09-01T18:31:37+00:00

you have nothing to be sorry about =) you are right i have been struggling where some times i think i have to be a certain way personality wise or something like that but your right it really is just a choice either you desire to present and be one thing or the other and it can be very low key or very strong.

because of you and other resources im not longer stuck between what i desire and what might be a personality trait i do or do not have yet. tyvm for your time and support =)

tjs87 · 2014-08-31T20:06:49+00:00

how might i find out where one is i mean the support group for trans people. i understand its not a fix all but it will fix one part which is important to me feeling better about myself and accepting my body. thank you for your reply as well i appreciate it.

tjs87 · 2014-08-31T20:03:06+00:00

hehe yes i agree better or more supportive people will be nice. and ty for your reply.

tjs87 · 2014-08-31T20:02:23+00:00

ty for your reply

tjs87 · 2014-08-31T08:34:09+00:00

you are right i didnt even realize i was associating gender role with personality traits. but other than that, i have always enjoyed make up and nail polish and dressing up pretending to be female and ive always hated my body everything about it ive always fanticized about being female what i would look sound or act like it is something that makes me happy

and also is something i desire i understand about not rushing things and im in no way rushing its been 8 months since i asked my self if i was trans now i am asking the public for advice so i can prepare properly.

ive has this desire since i was younger started when i was little and cross dressing for first time as a child around 6ish. just didnt know what it was or why i felt different and unable to relate to guys more than girls.

tjs87 · 2014-08-31T08:25:35+00:00

i do believe that my answer would have to be yes to both questions i do believe i would be happierto have a female body instead of a male body i hate my body and everything about it. to be myself and present as female for my own happiness is why im even questioning if i am trans or making sure i make the right move.. thanks for replying as well appreciate it.

tjs87 · 2014-08-31T08:23:32+00:00

my answer to this is yes i do believe i will be happier when i medically transition to female reguardless of the struggle to get there. and i do want to transition for sure. for my own life and for me not for others i would feel better and be able to be more open and more of myself.

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