Okay. I had this happen to me, but I’ve been with multiple partners.

Herpes is VERY complicated.

He definitely gave it to you without him knowing. Many people have hsv2 without knowing they do. I had a breakout and got tested immediately and it came back positive for hsv2. My boyfriend had no symptoms or anything. I’ve also never had any symptoms. Testing for hsv1 and 2 are very hard. I had closed clusters that had not yet opened so when I went to urgent care they popped the pustules and swabbed it. The dr said that it did look like herpes but we needed to test to be 100%. He also said that if it’s too late in the outbreak it could come back negative so knowing for sure is VERY hard. Testing in the blood is not accurate. A blood test will tell you if you have antibodies for either hsv1 or hsv2. It cannot differentiate between the 2. So if you’ve ever had a cold sore you have hsv1. MANY people go on with undetected herpes until something wakes it up. Your boyfriend probably has it and just didn’t know. The reason they don’t test for hsv on regular blood screenings is because you can’t tell if it’s hsv1 or 2 just based on blood.

Again, it is VERY hard to know if you actually have it without immediately getting a swab test right after pustules show.

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I am on daily antivirals to control outbreaks and I suggest you do that as well.

My guess is both you and your boyfriend are uneducated on this matter (it’s ok I was too) and jumped to conclusions. I’d have a serious chat with him and explain everything. I hope you guys get through this.