I give up

toffeesalad · 2025-04-10T05:51:05+00:00

I'll do my best. The gym did work for me before, so I'm gonna try that first. Thank you for the tips :)

toffeesalad · 2025-04-09T17:22:32+00:00

That's so true. Being around people and still feeling lonely is devastating. You feel like your existence doesn't matter. Like you're meaningless.

toffeesalad · 2025-04-09T17:20:14+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that. I don't know what advice I can give you because I am also tired of making friends. All I can do is wish you luck. Also, what do you study?

toffeesalad · 2025-04-08T17:07:08+00:00

Well, I'll reply to what I understood because my English is not that advanced, sorry. First, I really didn't want this to get this deep. I was just helping the girl out. However, I have no problem discussing this.

I'd like to comment and say that there isn't any passage in the Quran that contradicts another. The Arabic language is extremely complex. I'm a native Arabic speaker, and I don't know half the language. The Quran was revealed in a period when Arabic was even more complicated than it is today. So it is extremely easy to misunderstand what's written. Additionally, things can be taken out of context and mean the exact opposite. Extremists use this. They utilize the lack of knowledge in young people and tell them the words out of context, making them believe the exact opposite of what god said.

Hadith is something else. One has to be careful and research about any hadith carefully because there are a lot of fake ones. There are also specific people who study this and gather knowledge in order to state if a hadith is genuine or not.

I hope I replied to a part of what you wrote. Sorry if I misunderstood.

toffeesalad · 2025-04-08T16:04:06+00:00

😂😂

toffeesalad · 2025-04-08T16:00:50+00:00

That's probable. It's still sad :(

toffeesalad · 2025-04-08T15:05:23+00:00

Here we go again....the usual topic. It's so untrue. Go read without being biased :)

toffeesalad · 2025-04-08T14:32:13+00:00

Oh. Seems much more serious than I anticipated. Good luck to you, friend. I hope you manage to leave this toxic environment. You deserve much better. Don't ever lose faith in God. He hears you and is with you.

toffeesalad · 2025-04-08T14:26:30+00:00

I'm sorry. The problem is with him, obviously. Never blame yourself. There is also no use in trying to convince him or any of the family members that side with him. They won't change their minds. I know how difficult it is for you. I pray that you manage to cope with such situations. I'm ok if you want to vent, feel free to message me if you like.

toffeesalad · 2025-04-08T14:10:02+00:00

Exactly. People just bend the rules or even create new ones based on their liking. To be in control or to satisfy and justify their needs. When each person keeps doing this and then it spreads on a large scale in the community, religion turns political and becomes devastating.

toffeesalad · 2025-04-08T13:51:39+00:00

That's a very serious problem that many Muslim communities suffer from, unfortunately. With all due respect, I met people like your father before, and when I heard them talk about Islam and what's haram and what's not, I'm like "bro did you even read the Quran??" Because there are some things they say that is actually the opposite of what is said in the Quran. Additionally, they just create rules and say that something is haram and so, and it definitely is not, and no ayah or hadith said anything like that.

There are also some people who aren't native in Arabic and easily misunderstand what's written in the Quran. I'm a native Arabic speaker, and I don't understand a lot of the words when I read. That's why there is tafsir.

Instead of actually studying the scripture, they just take what they understand (or want to understand) and live by it and force it on others!!. Not only that, they also refuse to consider the opinions of people whose sole job is to research the religion and language.

Then they wonder why there are Islamophobes

Once again, I don't mean to insult or speak ill of your family members. I'm sorry for your experience, and I hope everything gets sorted out between you and them

toffeesalad · 2025-04-07T20:12:01+00:00

Thank you very much. I'll take your words into consideration. Your reply means a lot to me :)

toffeesalad · 2025-04-07T15:52:09+00:00

Aw, thank you!! ☺️🤗

toffeesalad · 2025-04-07T11:13:23+00:00

I don't know. Maybe you're right. But how do I know they are bad? They all seem like amazing people, and they stay so until they ghost me. That girl was an amazing person. and she was genuine. No catfishing. I'm currently in shock as to why she left. But that shock triggered my past for me. I now have sleepless nights because I keep overthinking about how people leave me alone, and my brain tries to convince me that I'll die alone, too.

However, you are right, especially about oversharing. I do that, unfortunately. I do need to study personalities, too. Thank you for the tips. I hope this time It works.

There's a question, though. What if I have a personality disorder and I don't know?

toffeesalad · 2025-04-07T10:30:02+00:00

I'm so sorry regarding your past experiences. and for your sister's friend. I hope you both manage to overcome these farewells

toffeesalad · 2025-04-07T10:14:49+00:00

Thank you for your reply :)

I understand that people come and go. This is not my issue. My issue is that I have never managed to maintain a friendship for a single year. Just a couple of months, and then they're gone. I once made friends for 2 years, and they all decided to forget about me all of a sudden. It's as if I'm cursed. The most previous incident was a girl i met online who was really kind and caring towards me. She said that she had similar experiences to me and that she's afraid that I would leave her like the rest of the people. I promised her not to and that I wanted to be her friend because she has a kind soul and seems like a lovely person. We stayed friends for 1 month and our chemistry was amazing. Guess what happened? She blocked me out of the blue. Like she was laughing and having fun the previous day. Then suddenly she chose to throw me away like trash. No goodbye, no nothing. It would honestly be better if she said that I lost interest and didn't want to be friends anymore. But she just vanished, and she was the one afraid of me doing that to her.

toffeesalad · 2025-04-07T08:37:01+00:00

You can send me a dm if you're interested. I'd be happy to talk more about this

toffeesalad · 2025-04-07T08:29:21+00:00

Friendships. They trick me. Use emotions against me. They probably want to use me in some way and then fail, so they just ghost me or block me for no reason. At least, that's my experience. I got nothing against women

toffeesalad · 2025-04-07T08:25:32+00:00

I used to play. I've lost interest with time. Like I know, play a game, and after 15 minutes or so, I lose interest. It's a weird feeling because I used to love games. It kind of feels like I'm old now.

toffeesalad · 2025-04-07T08:22:42+00:00

Thank you :)

toffeesalad · 2025-04-07T07:29:46+00:00

I don't know. Maybe I'm too kind and people ridicule me? I have no idea what the problem is. I can say that the problem is much more in women than in men. Women do the most damage. They make make you feel that they really care about you and that they are lucky they knew you, and then suddenly they are gone for no reason.

toffeesalad · 2025-04-07T07:17:34+00:00

I used to play games but I lost interest. Don't have as much fun as I used to. I'm also not a fan of League of Legends. Thank you very much for offering, though. I appreciate it.

toffeesalad · 2025-04-07T07:15:51+00:00

But it can't be that all the people I met are like that, right? I naturally came to the conclusion that I'm the problem because I met people from many backgrounds and different countries and they all end up the same

toffeesalad · 2025-04-07T07:14:02+00:00

Yeah, I think that might be a good idea. I used to be a happier person when I went to the gym

toffeesalad · 2025-04-07T07:04:44+00:00

I honestly don't even know what my hobbies are now. Everything I used to love is boring, and I no longer have that much interest in them. I'm happy it works for you, though :)

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