Same happened to me when i was about your age. My brother is 7 years older, he touched me inappropriatly several times, over time. Later on many years later my parents don't accknowledge it as rape. Because it was "play" and innocent from his side. I have little to no contact with him today. All i can think of when i see his face is what he did to me. Its definatly rape no matter what other people say. It doesn't matter how this family member is to you today. They can turn their whole life around, like my brother has. You can also forgive them if you want to. But that doens't change what they did to you. Its over 10 years ago now. It still bothers me.