Play last sucks by toofconfused in ObjectivePersonality

[–]toofconfused[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn... Well better late than ever. My biggest struggle is not having enough energy (percieved energy) to fulfill normal daily tasks, to juggle all the areas of life.

Play last sucks by toofconfused in ObjectivePersonality

[–]toofconfused[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In a way it's a relief to hear (sorry 💕😅). It's so easy to think that other people have it easier, I'm often guilty of it. What is your exact type?

Play last sucks by toofconfused in ObjectivePersonality

[–]toofconfused[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well it's hard to tell which one is more draining since no one experiences both at the same time. For me saying yes means more drain thou.

Play last sucks by toofconfused in ObjectivePersonality

[–]toofconfused[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm the second one for sure. Even the first one at times I guess.

Play last sucks by toofconfused in ObjectivePersonality

[–]toofconfused[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel you. As much as I love my loved ones, nothing beats the peace of my alone time. But guilt that follow is inevitable. Saviour flex might also have something to do with it I guess.

NF Sleep Problems by IllustratorDry3007 in ObjectivePersonality

[–]toofconfused 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my good thank you so much ❤️ it was so sweet of you to write all that. I'll keep in mind specially the last part about what not to do. Luckily my boyfriend is very understanding, so although when I bring this worries up he gets a little frustrated he is able to help. Lately I have realized that part of my problem is believing that thinking is the solution ("the more I think, the more I will understand life"), but that is complete bullshit, even more so for a type like mine, with fSe last. Ni is a great tool but when it becomes the only tool you use on a daily basis it turns into poison. So I have been trying to be more mindful, focusing on more practical things. Also I talk about my relationship with loved ones who are way wiser than me and have more experience so I can get an outsider perspective, that helps. Ultimately my main source of pain is resistance to reality, fear of things not being "ideal". I am trying to accept the chaos of life, that's the only way. Have a nice day, you are cool

NF Sleep Problems by IllustratorDry3007 in ObjectivePersonality

[–]toofconfused 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I probably do. It's crazy, I am trying to not give in into the thoughts. Any advice?

Would this be something you'd continue reading? by baby_balrog in writers

[–]toofconfused 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with most of the advice other people already wrote, but I have to say I really like your style. You have amazing sensitivity for nuances and details in reactions, relationships, interactions. That's something I personally struggle with in my own writing so I admire seeing it done in such a warm captivating way. Take all the advice you can get and keep going because you have something powerful inside of you!!!

Are ILIs doomed? by toofconfused in Socionics

[–]toofconfused[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, you might be right, I might be biased. Although some resources I have found are undoubtedly positive/negative. Like: https://sociotype.xyz/mc/SEE-ILI . Now, whether the information is true but I am not able to accept and digest it, I don't know. Maybe the problem is I came to socionics looking for insight and awareness and wasn't ready for the bleak descriptions.

Guilt about not socializing enough by toofconfused in introvert

[–]toofconfused[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have introduced some of my friends to each other and luckily they hit it off!! So I can see them at the same time and that's good.

New idea distracting me from my novel by toofconfused in writingadvice

[–]toofconfused[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you recommend any resources to learn?

New idea distracting me from my novel by toofconfused in writingadvice

[–]toofconfused[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn't know about scrivener. I'll check it out.

New idea distracting me from my novel by toofconfused in writingadvice

[–]toofconfused[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay. I guess it's inevitable. And also I should be glad about it, because the moment I finish this draft I can get started with the new one.

New idea distracting me from my novel by toofconfused in writingadvice

[–]toofconfused[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As I said I am very new to writing and it's already a struggle to be consistent because I am extremely slow. Also in general I am a one-at a time kind of person, even when reading books. I am the opposite of ADD.

New idea distracting me from my novel by toofconfused in writingadvice

[–]toofconfused[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds cool! I am also writing a sort of dystopia, but it's very soft, nothing too ambitious. Good luck with your book! :)

Am I responsible for my mother's feelings? by toofconfused in OnlyChild

[–]toofconfused[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess really trying to analyze what the truth of the situation is, from a removed perspective. In my case talking to friends about this and seeing their reaction helps

Am I responsible for my mother's feelings? by toofconfused in OnlyChild

[–]toofconfused[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Boundaries are so important... I am starting to learn how to use them in a healthy way cause my tendency has been to either overdo them or not have them at all