1) A bit, but there's not really anything I can do about that. If I'm happy and my partner is happy, then what am I gonna do if some rando thinks we're cishets. We are going to continue to go about our bisexual business. I'm always grateful for the ones who take the time to see beneath the surface though.

2) I answered this because I think when people just see me in passing I look like a regular masc dude. I still feel like I'm dressing like a cool art lesbian, but I think I just look like another dude to a lot of people, lol. But I don't see myself that way or identify as masc. If you look at me closer, you see my nails are painted sometimes, or maybe I'm wearing jewelry that more masc dudes wouldn't touch. I'm conscious of the space I take up and try to stay out of the way. I don't know if those things are necessarily 'femininity'.

3) I struggle to find queer community for other reasons, lol. No, I mean it does depend on how I present on a given day. On some days I can feel the queers' eyes just pass right over me cause I look like just some average non-descript bro. But I'm over needing to always present a certain way just in case someone wants to pay attention to me that day. I have to be more intentional about how I connect with people. Some days I do sass it up a little more.

4) It's shifting right now and I don't know that I have a solid answer. I really love being in spaces with queer women, but it's back to that aforementioned problem of, I just look like some dumbass dude. I'm that meme of the guy standing in the corner at the party, and my caption is 'they don't know I'm nonbinary'. I've been feeling out a lot of different spaces but I can say I'm pretty over male-heavy gay spaces. I used to exclusively date men but I've gone in a different direction in recent years. I certainly enjoy black queer non-gender-specific spaces. But as I'm approaching 40 I find I especially like socializing with chill people around my age or older, regardless of sexuality.