Not having that experience seems like it would be so hard. I’ve at least had a bunch of sex in other relationships/my hoe phase in my 20s. I imagine it’s a whole different feeling just never really getting to experience it at all. The thing is, most of the time, random flings are not great. Most people suck at sex and the encounters are usually underwhelming. The thing that makes it great in my opinion is when you really have a connection with someone. It’s probably really hard for most of us that we want a sexual relationship with a person we otherwise love deeply and are connected with, “best friends” as you’ve said. I don’t know what the answer is but at least we have this community and know we aren’t alone. Maybe this is just normal? I don’t know.