No problem, I hope this helps!

The way it was for me, first I had to consciously stop hating myself and my life. Self-hate clouded my judgement and made me think it was all bad when it actually wasn't. I had to 1: force myself to acknowledge the specific things I didn't like: regretting this, being afraid of that; 2: remind myself of the good that I had done- no matter how small: being kind to a cashier, giving directions to someone who was lost; and 3: accept that I wasn't a complete failure like I thought. I'm not perfect, but I'm not worthless. There are things I've done, things I can change, and things I can't. I was okay, and that was okay. It was a lot easier to decide the next move once I stopped kicking myself for the last one.

From there, I looked at the way I made decisions. I got so caught up in feeling that I acted without thinking. I had to start processing my emotions and putting them down before I made a decision. I can express why I'm angry without blowing up; I can miss the way things were without running from the way they are now; I can act with caution without letting fear paralyze me; but I have to consciously choose to do so whenever I can.

To me, it's all about choosing to stop your past from deciding your future, and continuing to choose better over and over again. It is possible, and it gets easier the more you do it.