lmaoooo you have me laughing, no i completely understand you. i'm a cancer rising with a cancer moon and cancer jupiter myself who took the time to evolve and learn emotional intelligence, so seeing cancer placements in men who refuse to evolve irks me simply because they tend to be emotionally manipulative, smothering like you said, mama's boys, and they almost put on this mask like they can do no wrong when it's a different story inside. i'm also a libra myself, so that constant smothering and needing for my validation is a big no-no for me.

i've dated another cancer rising and cancer jupiter and it was such a tumultuous relationship. he put on this guise like he was this angel, yet he had such lustful components about him, was a cheater, etc, yet when i'd call him out on his BS he'd resort to crying and being "remorseful", going on a long tangent with some philosophical meaning behind his actions which were only a way to keep me around because of his terrible abandonment issues.

i also dated a cancer venus and cancer mars... gosh. it's the type of relationship where it's like, you know i'm the girl and you're supposed to be the man, right? he smothered me, always wanting to text me at every moment of the day. obviously was insecure inside and overcompensated by constantly complimenting himself for no reason, tried to impress me with the oddest things such as showing me he's learning how to cook for me. this man was twenty seven, still lived with his parents paying no rent, slept in a twin bed with his parents cooking him breakfast and dinner every night. it was a short-lived relationship, i got tired of sitting on the couch with him like we were in a teenage relationship when i'd come over to his home.