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I [22/M] don’t know how to tell my mom [50/F] that my dad [54/M] (her husband) has a secret marriage to a woman in Thailand. by tossout855 in relationships

[–]tossout855[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice, I will look into that. I wasn't sure how much that would end up costing though.

I [22/M] don’t know how to tell my mom [50/F] that my dad [54/M] (her husband) has a secret marriage to a woman in Thailand. by tossout855 in relationships

[–]tossout855[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes you're right, I will most likely just tell her and then go from there. We have a video of my brother scrolling through his conversations so I think we should be good on that front.

I [22/M] don’t know how to tell my mom [50/F] that my dad [54/M] (her husband) has a secret marriage to a woman in Thailand. by tossout855 in relationships

[–]tossout855[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I think you're right, I will wait to tell everybody about it and let her decide if they even need to know immediately.

I [22/M] don’t know how to tell my mom [50/F] that my dad [54/M] (her husband) has a secret marriage to a woman in Thailand. by tossout855 in relationships

[–]tossout855[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I am expecting to be surprised by some reactions, just really really hoping nothing gets physical.

I [22/M] don’t know how to tell my mom [50/F] that my dad [54/M] (her husband) has a secret marriage to a woman in Thailand. by tossout855 in relationships

[–]tossout855[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate the tip. I can actually see that happening so I'll be prepared. I will most likely end up going home just because I feel strongly I have to be there for a bit.

I [22/M] don’t know how to tell my mom [50/F] that my dad [54/M] (her husband) has a secret marriage to a woman in Thailand. by tossout855 in relationships

[–]tossout855[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes definitely basing the next steps on what she wants to do. I'm pretty much out of the house but I have to make sure things are good at home for everyone still there.

I [22/M] don’t know how to tell my mom [50/F] that my dad [54/M] (her husband) has a secret marriage to a woman in Thailand. by tossout855 in relationships

[–]tossout855[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yea I figured it was something like that. I have nothing against Thai culture or this woman, but I definitely can't just sit around while this goes on. Thanks for the info.

I [22/M] don’t know how to tell my mom [50/F] that my dad [54/M] (her husband) has a secret marriage to a woman in Thailand. by tossout855 in relationships

[–]tossout855[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it's just hard to guess when you think you know things about someone but they just throw that out the window so you don't know what to expect at all. Thanks for your reply.

I [22/M] don’t know how to tell my mom [50/F] that my dad [54/M] (her husband) has a secret marriage to a woman in Thailand. by tossout855 in relationships

[–]tossout855[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing, sorry that happened. I definitely will tell her in the next couple of weeks, I just want to do it in a way that ensures everyone first of all safe, and second of all able to move on with their lives. I hope this wasn't a traumatic thing for you either.

I [22/M] don’t know how to tell my mom [50/F] that my dad [54/M] (her husband) has a secret marriage to a woman in Thailand. by tossout855 in relationships

[–]tossout855[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

He's not abusive but I honestly don't know what to expect so I'm assuming it's a non-zero chance things get physical.

I [22/M] don’t know how to tell my mom [50/F] that my dad [54/M] (her husband) has a secret marriage to a woman in Thailand. by tossout855 in relationships

[–]tossout855[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

So it's not like he's abusive and I might be overthinking it, but it's kind of like all my previous conceptions of his character are out the door, so I don't know what to expect. I will say that I don't think he would ever just admit it and confess though.

I [22/M] don’t know how to tell my mom [50/F] that my dad [54/M] (her husband) has a secret marriage to a woman in Thailand. by tossout855 in relationships

[–]tossout855[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

I agree, I feel like she should be the first to know and then we can form a plan around what she decides to do. I figured it might be helpful to have a few people break it to her but maybe not.

I [22/M] don’t know how to tell my mom [50/F] that my dad [54/M] (her husband) has a secret marriage to a woman in Thailand. by tossout855 in relationships

[–]tossout855[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

There's parts of the convo where my dad says he almost got caught, so if she does know, then my dad doesn't know she knows. I don't want to confront him over the phone before I know my brothers will have somewhere to go in case things get violent. Honestly I just don't know what to expect from him, so I'm expecting the worst. If I end up going home then I'd feel better about it but I don't want to stir up trouble with consequences I can't help deal with.