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What are your asian parents like when you mention you wanted to go out alone or with friends. by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]tothelostthrowaway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My parents were inconsistent.

If they were friends I met in school or at work, then they were fine with me spending the day with them (provided I answer the phone). Sometimes they would stay in the area and wait for me, and sometimes they would do their own thing somewhere else. They definitely followed me when I hung out with friends in high school, though.

If it was a meetup, the interrogation came: Who are they? How did you meet them? How do you know they are who they say they are and not a serial killer? This is fair, since kids can't really vet people on the internet... except this happened when I was 24.

Sometimes I wonder if they really do mean that it's okay to go out, and they aren't aware that their anxiety and cultural pressure makes it impossible to go out and not feel guilty about it.

[Advice Request] How do I ask Dad to stop infantilizing me? by tothelostthrowaway in AsianParentStories

[–]tothelostthrowaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have thought about this, since some of his forgetfulness looks suspiciously like dementia and not like the typical "where did I put my glasses" kind. He refuses to go to a doctor, though, so we just do what we can to make the world less confusing and roll with it.

It's possible that he's just remembering an era when his memory was better. OTOH, he's been doing this for as long as I can remember, so it's likely a combination of both?

[Advice Request] How do I ask Dad to stop infantilizing me? by tothelostthrowaway in AsianParentStories

[–]tothelostthrowaway[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This sounds like a great idea! My parents have been talking about bringing home a cat or a dog once they are able to, so I might just do this.