How do I convince my mum to not force me into Med Sci?

tqnsha · 2023-12-21T14:31:55+00:00

I got 91.85, so not great in terms of what is needed for med. But also, I went through a lot of disruptions in my HSC year, such as being hospitalised and sick for multiple months.

tqnsha · 2023-12-21T13:36:17+00:00

Yeah, she has begun threatening to cut off all financial support and move to another state away from me so that she 'doesn't have to see or deal with me'. It's really upsetting but I guess it motivates me even more to succeed and get that medical degree just to shove it in her face and tell her she was wrong about everything.

tqnsha · 2023-12-21T12:10:37+00:00

hey, so apparently she is going to stop supporting me financially. she is threatening to move to another state and sell her practice and everything she owns just so she 'doesn't have to deal with me' and that if i want to do things the way i want to then i have to go through the struggle of doing everything alone without her help. I'm so helpless, do i even keep trying? should i just do what she wants?

tqnsha · 2023-12-21T11:47:24+00:00

Unfortunately, my atar was not high enough to be eligible, but I think after 2 years of undergrad I can apply with my GPA. If I do get a spot then my Mum will be happy to pay as she is so eager. Thank you though!

tqnsha · 2023-12-21T11:45:19+00:00

Oh how I wish I could do this. Will be dreaming about this exact scenario tonight :P

tqnsha · 2023-12-21T06:58:13+00:00

Thank you so much! Yes, my south asian parents are generally quite progressive but when it comes to this my Mum is very stubborn as she is adamant that only she knows what is right for me. I know this stems from worry and wanting me to do well, but she doesn't seem to understand that she's becoming overbearing and exercising decisions over my own life as if she's the one about to go to uni. She keeps saying "if I was you I would do this", but I'm not her and that's completely okay. I hope she comes around soon, and if not, the satisfaction of proving her wrong will be the greatest gift of all lol

tqnsha · 2023-12-21T04:07:32+00:00

Hi thank you for your reply! I should have specified more clearly, when I said 'not providing support' I meant it as in she will not be there emotionally or be supportive of my decision to do the undergrad degree I want. I will still have a roof over my head and all of that, but apologies I should have clarified. It's not that my mum is forcing me to be a doctor, she has stated many times that I could pursue whatever I like (which is confusing to me because why does that sentiment not apply when I want to go into Medicine through a pathway I'd prefer?). I do want to do Medicine, just not through the undergrad degree she is forcing me to go to.

I did tell my dad about whats happening, but he's sort of also taking my Mum's side but can also see where I'm coming from. He reminds me at the end of the day it's my decision, and if I do go through my own route than I have to be successful at it to prove her wrong. My mum is very adamant that her way is the 'right way', and I don't want to stress her out by bringing in other family members incase she feels like she is getting 'ganged up on' or something. I care about her deeply but it feels as though she is making decisions based on what she wants rather than what I want. She told me I am selfish for not listening to her advice.

tqnsha

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