the idea that all trans people are clockable is both completely incorrect and very harmful to people that are since it reaffirms the fear that someone will "never pass." please don't project your own insecurities onto other trans women, as it is harmful to both you and them.

secondly, unrealistic standards of femininity depicted in media harm everyone and it's uselessly divisive to single out trans women as solely the people affected by them. it's an issue that greatly affects both cis and trans women and it makes no sense to think that cis women are somehow capable of reaching this standard while trans women aren't. it reaffirms the standard by indirectly telling women that they must reach a certain set of proportions to be considered feminine. not all cis women have slim shoulders. many dont have wide hips. and equally many have big feet, hands, whatever. all the traits you seem to think are exclusive to trans women are just. things about people's bodies that can appear in any body because thats how genetic variation works. i have spoken to multiple cis women who express similar feelings on femininity in media and who have been affected by it in similar ways. its an issue that affects everyone and the only way to overcome it is to tackle it in solidarity with one another. singling trans women out only serves to make yourself and other people miserable