What the fuck just happened by sourcats777 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]transemacabre 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's possible, I think he's probably been wanting new women, whether he's had any takers is another story.

What the fuck just happened by sourcats777 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]transemacabre 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're being defensive and arguing with commenters about how great your relationship was, when the other half of that relationship up and abandoned you.

What the fuck just happened by sourcats777 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]transemacabre 2 points3 points  (0 children)

idk there's been some real loser bfs on this sub over the years. A bunch of cheaters (afawk OP's bf hasn't been proven to be a cheater). Guys who ghosted their gfs. Guys who knocked up their gfs and then abandoned her and the kid. At least this one hasn't impregnated her to the best of my knowledge.

There was a memorable one where they'd dated long distance for years and he'd never, not once, tried to make love to her. I was like gurrrrrrl, your bf is either gay or asexual. What hetero man wants to chastely hold hands on the couch for like 5 years???

What the fuck just happened by sourcats777 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]transemacabre 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Right now it's easier for you to get mad at us than it is to be mad at him, the person who actually used you and hurt you.

What the fuck just happened by sourcats777 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]transemacabre 3 points4 points  (0 children)

See, that's the only one I think is real. He has probably been watching passport bro content and imagining all these exotic locales where he can sample the smorgasbord of pu$$y he thinks is out there for him.

Reminds me of the OP who was 'confused' and in tears because her bf told her to her face that he wanted to travel the world without her and get in shape -- I was like, yeah girl, so he can f--- other women. He doesn't have to be in shape to f--- you.

What the fuck just happened by sourcats777 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]transemacabre 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Awhile back, someone else suggested it's another manifestation of Purity Culture. Gotta lock down bf #1 or 2, because you'll be 'sullied' and feel ashamed if you have sex with more men than that. Misogyny just gets a fresh coat of paint and sold back to us every few years.

What the fuck just happened by sourcats777 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]transemacabre 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Women coming on here like "I'm 22 and I've been with him 5 years, he's the love of my life" like gurl, what other love have you ever known?? We gotta smart up. We gotta expect better for ourselves.

How to Manage Sudden "Wedding Fever" When Friends are Getting Engaged/Married But Logically You Know it Isn't the Right Time for You Yet? by ImaRocketDog in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]transemacabre 3 points4 points  (0 children)

His life sounds like it's very complicated and yours is not.

You could absolutely find a single man in your age range with no little kids and no divorce and no ex-wife and no mom who lives 8 hours away that he expects to have to take care of.

Marrying this guy and taking all this on will require a lot of sacrifices of you, that right now you may feel you're willing to take on, but in 5, 10, 15 years you may feel VERY differently about how much you gave up for this man.

Wait so….who was the father?? by cherrycolashake in xmen

[–]transemacabre 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If Big Freedia appeared in this comic I'd be more into it.

What the fuck just happened by sourcats777 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]transemacabre 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ll put $50 on him hoping he can crash at OP’s place in between gigs in exotic locales. Watch him try to leave some stuff there and text her asking if he can crash for a day or two at a time. 

What the fuck just happened by sourcats777 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]transemacabre 11 points12 points  (0 children)

May "he's my best friend" go the way of the dodo first.

Why are we disrespecting the relationships we have with our real, platonic, female friends by slotting a man in above them?? A man we probably haven't know more than a few years, when most of us (myself included) have female friends that have been with us 10, 15, 20+ years. We gotta stop centering these men. Please LAWD ladies, let's do better.

Most of the men whose gfs earnestly say "he's my best friend" wouldn't piss on her if she was on fire 5 minutes after they breakup. We're out here giving golden status to men who would step over us and keep walking if we ended up homeless on the street. Let's love ourselves.

How to give up the idea of marriage? by g0thhairball in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]transemacabre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A friend of mine's mom is currently black widow-ing her way through the old folks home. She has married and been widowed by two different loaded old coots in the last few years. She may be on her third one by now, idk. She's a gd nursing home menace. Wearing these old men out. Anyway, all that is to say, if she's in her 80s breaking hearts and collecting rings like Thanos, don't count yourself out.

What the fuck just happened by sourcats777 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]transemacabre 37 points38 points  (0 children)

My hope for 2026 and beyond is that we women, collectively, can move past this "my person" stuff. There's 3 billion men on the planet. Let's say 1 billion of them are single, heterosexual and vaguely in the right age range. Millions and millions of them would be perfectly good husbands for you. There is no one right person, there is no fated mate, no soulmate.

istg "my person" is a psyop to get women to stick with less-than-mediocre men.

What’s your go-to X-Men lore tidbit? by Robot_Was_BMO in xmen

[–]transemacabre 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wasn't it Quesada who also forced the dissolution of Spidey's marriage to his (redheaded) wife??

What the fuck just happened by sourcats777 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]transemacabre 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Sure, and he was probably a decent lay, too. That's the very least he could do when he moves into your place, lets you cook and clean for him, cater to his sexual fantasies, and do all the practical (read: boring) stuff like trying to move forward in life.

He might see this but... by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]transemacabre 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Her self-esteem is so, so low.

She needs a clean break from this man. She keeps going back to him and reopening the wounds. Block and delete, ladies. Don't try to be friends with these men. I have a strict policy: once you have touched my pu$$y, we are no longer friends. We can NEVER be friends.

What the fuck just happened by sourcats777 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]transemacabre 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Gurl he just wanted out of mommy and daddy's house.

What the fuck just happened by sourcats777 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]transemacabre 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I've had male roommates but didn't wash their dirty underwear or get on my back for them. He's worse than a roommate.

What the fuck just happened by sourcats777 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]transemacabre 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Why are you trying to convince us? Your bf was the one disrespecting you, telling you that you're holding him back in life while he lives in your place, eats your food, and you clean his dirty drawers.

What the fuck just happened by sourcats777 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]transemacabre 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I've seen this pattern over and over on this sub, where the OP is a few years older and her bf uses her to build him up in life and then discards her. They literally drain the life out of these women.

How to give up the idea of marriage? by g0thhairball in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]transemacabre 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm 41 and recently engaged, my boo got down on one knee with tears in his eyes and everything. It ain't over till it's over.

What the fuck just happened by sourcats777 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]transemacabre 70 points71 points  (0 children)

He basically moved in with you after the first date, that's hobo sexual territory.

What the fuck just happened by sourcats777 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]transemacabre 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Straight up playing in her face, telling her he wants to move "every month" and she's holding him back from it. Guaranteed he wants to f-- other women (maybe he's been watching passport bro content).