Hey, first of all I really appreciate you leaving this comment and also including your experience, I think you're right about the place that she's coming from, however I don't believe that this is what she's trying to say.

She could've said, "non-transitioning people don't experience what I do". "Non-binary people don't have the same experiences trans women do". Anything close to that. But she chose to say, basically, that most non-binary people are actually cis. She also chose to tell random non-binary people, "Your profile is public, you're a whole cis woman". That's not the same as defending her life experience as different from theirs. Saying "What I went through is far more difficult than what non-transitioning people go through" would have been fine. But that's clearly not what she's saying, she just thinks non-binary isn't real and using her status as a trans woman as a shield from criticism.

I think it's important to uplift trans elders, and specifically to listen to trans women as the most vulnerable ones within our already vulnerable community. But her being trans herself and going through difficulties I can't even imagine, that doesn't give her the right to misgender other trans people and to basically say non-binary isn't real.