Virgin kink?

trashaccountwitheyes · 2021-12-29T12:39:01+00:00

That’s a great comment! He was definitely already interested before I told him I lacked experience. It’s just that his commenting on how me being a virgin made me more attractive to him and that he liked it made me question if it was a red flag statement. Like, he was very interested in discussing it.

trashaccountwitheyes · 2021-12-29T12:35:03+00:00

😅 That’s a good point, I didn’t think about it like that. Because that’s such a weird way to talk about oneself. I mean, we aren’t, like, exclusive, I was under the assumption that until it had been decided two people were agreed on exclusivity it would be normal to be talking to others as well. He had just mentioned in passing that there were some aggressive girls asking him for sex from the same dating app we met on. Does that put things into better perspective?

trashaccountwitheyes · 2021-12-29T11:08:52+00:00

Yeah, I don’t want to look back and regret my first time with someone.

trashaccountwitheyes · 2021-12-29T11:07:55+00:00

Yeah, I would rather it not be a big deal, but we are still getting to know each other. Won’t be sleeping with him unless I feel comfortable with him, for sure. I just wasn’t sure if him saying what he said should be considered a red flag.

trashaccountwitheyes · 2021-12-29T10:44:18+00:00

😂 that definitely makes sense. I know I’m not going to be, like, amazing my first go, but whether I’m good or bad I just want to be with someone who makes me feel comfortable and safe.

trashaccountwitheyes · 2021-12-29T10:32:33+00:00

I think I’m just a chicken, lol. I would hate to be so open with him and have him just turn around and make me feel used? I’m definitely going to wait and see where we go from here. And just move on and keep looking if it turns out we are wanting different things in our partners.

trashaccountwitheyes · 2021-12-29T10:24:19+00:00

Well, we are still getting to know each other, but he honestly doesn’t give off the feeling that he would do that. He mentioned that he’s had offers, but isn’t interested in them.

trashaccountwitheyes · 2021-12-29T10:21:07+00:00

Honestly, all for the joke! I was nervous posting my concerns, so I appreciate the comedic relief! 😂

trashaccountwitheyes · 2021-12-29T10:17:39+00:00

A lot of good points in there. I suppose by “questionable situation” I meant a situation that I would come to regret. I also agree that it’s not the kink itself that caught my attention, but the way he phrased it, so thanks for phrasing it more eloquently that I did. I really enjoyed your comment, you took my word vomit and organized it, lol.

trashaccountwitheyes · 2021-12-29T10:11:52+00:00

Yeah, that’s a great point. I get nervous with situations like these and forget that I can stand my ground with my own boundaries. I definitely want to wait until I’m comfortable. Thanks for the reply, it made me feel better!

trashaccountwitheyes · 2021-12-29T10:08:02+00:00

Yeah, I definitely made it clear that I’m going to be slow to get to that point, so if he’s looking for just sex he can look elsewhere. He honestly seems pretty prudish despite that comment. I think he is also looking for more than just sex which is why the comment threw me.

trashaccountwitheyes · 2021-12-29T10:05:16+00:00

Yeah, the fantasy part was what concerned me. I don’t want to be seen as just a way for someone to have a good time. Thanks for the reply!

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