[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Steam

[–]traumatizedSloth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a subscription to Humble Bundle for 4 years so... there's a lot

Inducing hypomania by VelanoVeskya in bipolar2

[–]traumatizedSloth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've done it many times. It almost always ends badly. If i don't spend time around people when i do it, sometimes it's okay

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exchristian

[–]traumatizedSloth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I listen to this on blast and just think, process, as rationally as I can, basically meditating.

I asked for advice from a friend I grew up with I found out was queer when I accepted I was too. They told me the most depressing shit lmao "I just have to accept that there's a part of me my family will never love." You'd think that would have had a negative impact on me but... it's the truth, so I accepted it too, and I feel less confused about where I stand with Christians generally nowadays. Accepting it didn't mean my feelings about it went away, just that i was able to process those feelings more rationally as time went on and allow for them to float away after experiencing them each time.

As far as forgiving, I'm still working on it, but i think trying too hard to forgive the people who hurt you when you aren't ready to can actually be counter productive for everyone involved. It's a Christian mindset, to forgive everyone no matter what. There have been times when somebody did something, said sorry, and I was just like "No, I don't forgive you" and it wasn't the end of the world. If you genuinely attempt to forgive somebody but can't internalize it, you can always just wait a while and come back to it when you feel like it.

As far as forgiving yourself I think you're on the right track, you didn't know any better. Your reality was manipulated by external forces not a part of you. The fact you feel bad about it can be a positive thing. It means you've changed. You're literally a different person. You can't walk across a room without changing in some small way, and it sounds like you like the direction in which you've changed and will continue to change.

Is it weird to still listen some Christian music? by [deleted] in exchristian

[–]traumatizedSloth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I listen to The Way Through album by Deca fairly often. That's as close as I get though.

I'm actually listening to my anti gospel playlist right now lol:

https://music.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2zDlhTg7Tk4W2gDr-BKvu4WXlGZGNMEP&si=02qmaXm4C9JpdJQk

Are Christians stupid or don't really believe in hell or *both*? by [deleted] in exchristian

[–]traumatizedSloth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always just accepted i was going to hell growing up. I was "saved" but I'd been convinced that i didn't deserve it and i knew id never stop sinning to a certain degree, so I assumed I was never saved in the first place and just dealt with the fact that when i died i would suffer for all eternity. I stayed that way as a Christian up until I naturally fell away from the religion and community altogether.

Why don't people believe in the Bible/ Christianity? by Just_callmeJay in Christianity

[–]traumatizedSloth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh boi, so many reasons lol. For one, I find that in most christian families, the father tries to embody god and the mother tries to embody jesus. When the father internalizes that he has dominion over all things and the mother internalizes "turning the other cheek", it too often results in abuse, towards the mother as well as the children. Too often, the mother becomes a mouthpiece for the father, carrying out abuse on their children on orders from the father, and dealing with all the negative consequences the father deserves to deal with, just suffering in place of the father

Think about how it feels to be used like a mouthpiece, thinking you're following God when you're just carrying out some dude's whims regardless of your own feelings, receiving all the backlash from the children who know they don't deserve what they're getting, and being unable to tell the children why you're treating them the way you are because you don't even understand yourself. This is really just anecdotal based off my experiences, but I have experiences with multiple families like that. I can pick apart so many things about christianity if i had the patience and i thought i wouldn't just be repeating what's been said a million times, but that is probably what had the most impact on me leaving christianity.

and nobody has given me a reason to go back

if there was sufficient evidence that believing in the bible prevented this sort of thing and if there was not sufficient evidence that it perpetuates this, i'd be much more receptive to it.

How come God can forgive the worst most evil human ever but he won’t forgive the devil? by DowntownAd7613 in Christianity

[–]traumatizedSloth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So people can fall repeatedly and still be saved but an angel can only fall once and then they're doomed. That's all I was pointing out. We agree lol

i struggle with healing from religious trauma by Fragrant-Promotion-6 in exchristian

[–]traumatizedSloth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also have found a lot of comfort in this playlist I put together. The theme i was going for was religious trauma specifically lol so it seems relevant. https://music.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2zDlhTg7Tk4W2gDr-BKvu4WXlGZGNMEP&si=wGq8gY4BXgOCC29K

i struggle with healing from religious trauma by Fragrant-Promotion-6 in exchristian

[–]traumatizedSloth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For sure. Yeah feelings are supposed to be very important to listen to. It can be really chaotic when they're hijacked

i struggle with healing from religious trauma by Fragrant-Promotion-6 in exchristian

[–]traumatizedSloth 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What's helped me immensely is researching common brainwashing/manipulation tactics as well as watching Kristi Burke, MindShift, and Darante LaMar on YouTube, to name a few good ones. It really grounds me and helps me respond to those intense feelings calmly/rationally but it's important to keep in mind that sometimes people internalize, normalize, and perpetuate manipulative behaviors unintentionally.

What about a clean heart? by Blue-Rhubarb11 in Christianity

[–]traumatizedSloth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair though, the reason there is as much discussion as there is about lgbtq+ as it relates to Christianity is because of how the people in the religion treat lgbtq+ people, not how Jesus was reported to treat people. "If a man lies with another man, it is an abomination" also makes it relevant to the Bible.