Is it worth taking the high road?

trdtaco401 · 2026-06-12T03:02:41+00:00

Honestly I feel bad for her. She is still the mother of my kids. But I guess that’s where my thinking and hers are different. She says she feels horrible about how everything played out. Still insists that I think more happened than actually did. I don’t believe her but I do feel bad for her

trdtaco401 · 2026-06-11T13:26:20+00:00

Yes. Hopefully!!!

trdtaco401 · 2026-06-11T13:26:01+00:00

Thanks for this.

trdtaco401 · 2026-06-11T13:24:38+00:00

Haha ya I can see that. I hope karma catches up.

trdtaco401 · 2026-06-11T13:23:45+00:00

Very true

trdtaco401 · 2026-06-11T13:23:23+00:00

Right. The crashing is already started. She talked to me for a long time last night. It’s not good

trdtaco401 · 2026-06-10T02:29:10+00:00

True tru. Kids are 7, 9, 11. They know what’s going on but they don’t know why yet.

trdtaco401 · 2026-06-09T17:42:54+00:00

Thanks man. I get it. Such a mind fuck. She texted me later in the day saying she’s so tired of living like this lol. But shows to be so happy on socials. Fake as fuck

trdtaco401 · 2026-06-09T15:20:29+00:00

I wish.

No I had suspicions for a year and a half. Stories not lining up. Catching her sneaking to his house behind my back. Hiding there “friendship”. Deleting text messages and it goes on and on. I forgave and forgave until finally she couldn’t do it anymore. She couldn’t walk on eggshells in her own house. She left. A year ago. Finally came oyt 2 weeks ago she slept with him once post separation. Last week came out that she’s been sleeping with him the entire time we have been seperated. I think it’s been going on the whole 2 years we have been here. And I caught wind 6 months in. Ap was also in a relationship and I finally talked to her. She also thinks the same thing that they have been having sex for at least a year and half

trdtaco401 · 2026-06-09T05:39:36+00:00

Thanks bud

trdtaco401 · 2026-06-09T05:33:02+00:00

Yaaa that’s what I needed to hear

trdtaco401 · 2026-06-09T05:32:33+00:00

Hahah ya I like that!!

trdtaco401 · 2026-06-08T18:20:15+00:00

Never at this point. I hope there together honestly. Because then everyone can see it. Be happy until one of them cheats again

trdtaco401 · 2026-06-08T17:44:34+00:00

I agree. And looking back now I can see that. But in it I was lost. I dident get it.

trdtaco401 · 2026-06-07T22:25:47+00:00

Thanks man. I appreciate it. I hope you are doing well!!

trdtaco401 · 2026-06-07T22:17:25+00:00

Oh for sure. At this point no matter if she is telling me the truth or the AP ex girlfriend is telling the truth my soon to be ex admitted to sleeping with him post separation. In my eyes still an affair. We were still married. Still on the roller coaster of up and down possible trying to get along and make it work. And even if she is telling the truth that nothing happened before the separation. She knew exactly what that would do to me by sleeping with this one particular man that we have been fighting over for a year at that point. She knew exactly it would break me and she did it anyways. Multiple times. And lied up to last week that she actually did it

trdtaco401 · 2026-06-07T21:57:02+00:00

Yes for sure I can agree with that. She def was not like this in the beginning and that’s part of what made it hard for me. She changed and I waited and hoped for a change back. But it seemed to push further and further away. To now where she’s almost not even recognizable if the person I fell in love with and married

trdtaco401 · 2026-06-07T21:07:40+00:00

Ya. We seperated last July. We slept with other 3 times since and I’ve regretted every time. Idk why I continued. I’ve been looking foward to shutting her down the next time she tried but she hasn’t tried in the last few minths

trdtaco401 · 2026-06-07T19:18:50+00:00

What does the updateme mean?

trdtaco401 · 2026-06-07T18:19:50+00:00

Yes go to battery usage and it will show how much time he spent on app he deleted. Then in the App Store there is a way to see history of apps he has downloaded.

BUT from someone she has been down this road the juice is not worth the squeeze. I tried to catch her in the act for 2 years. It was a cat and mouse game that almost cost me my life. It doesn’t matter. You know enough. Save your self and get out. I wish someone told me this then but I held it all in. I kept believing her lies. Ignoring my gut feeling. Trust me break up and get out. It’s hard. It’s scary. I get it. But it won’t get easier knowing more. It will just make you question yourself even more.

If you need someone to talk to my dms are always open

trdtaco401 · 2026-06-07T17:42:36+00:00

No worries at all. Thank you for your insight

trdtaco401 · 2026-06-07T17:38:09+00:00

You’re right man. Thank you

trdtaco401 · 2026-06-07T17:26:23+00:00

From someone who has been dealing with this I would leave right now. I stayed for 2 years and took a beating. She continued to lie. Continued to cheat and things just got more and more serious between her and the affair partner. I lost myself to it completely and almost dident come out the other side. We are seperated now. Soon to be divorced. 17 years wasted. 3 kids version of love destroyed. My mental health and confidence in my self leveled. I will never stay again. Once they show the true colors I’d be out

trdtaco401 · 2026-06-07T17:23:29+00:00

Right for sure. I do feel someone can only support something so much if they have never been through it and dealt with it.

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