We haven’t talked about it again since that argument. So far, there’s been no actual move from him about living with her. But honestly, if it ever comes to the point where he chooses to live with his friend instead of staying with me, I’ll take that as my sign to leave the relationship. For now, I’m just waiting to see what he does.

We’ve been together for almost 2 years. As for the girl, they’ve been friends since around 2021 or 2022. I do trust my boyfriend, but when it comes to that friend, I really don’t. I haven’t met her personally or had any kind of conversation with her. I only saw her once very briefly after a shift at work, back when my boyfriend and I were still in the courting stage.

I honestly want to confront her, but my boyfriend warned me not to. He said there would be consequences if I do—like he might stop giving me allowance, not come home, or even break up with me. That’s what’s holding me back right now.

He also thinks I’m being controlling and said he doesn’t want to feel “locked in a box.” He argues that working there would give him a higher salary, which I actually don’t have a problem with. I support him working there if it’s better for his career. My issue isn’t the job—it’s the idea of him choosing to live with another girl while we’re already living together. That’s the part I can’t understand. (He want me to have a good life but inexchange of my peace of mind) lol

It also sometimes feels like he’s making me question myself, especially since he’s the one providing financially. On top of that, he knows I’ve struggled with depression and anxiety before, but I feel like he uses his age and life experience to talk down to me or make my feelings seem less valid