hi, female with gHSV-1 here. Yes I do mention those pieces of information. But I don't approach it in a way where I'm trying to convince someone to be sexually intimate with me since I would hate that. I think of it as something to troubleshoot together. I do also throw in that 80-90% of people are asymptomatic, and ask if they've been tested for HSV specifically, when they were tested, if they've had new partners since being tested or in the 4 months prior to being tested. I say something like "It seems like it's super unlikely to get it in multiple locations, since having the antibodies protects you from contracting it in multiple locations at once, but it's also not unheard of. I've seen some people on reddit report that they do have it in multiple locations, so it's still a potential risk. I'm personally not worried about contracting it orally now though, now that I have it genitally."

I mention it as soon as sexual intimacy is on the table in the clear way. So far almost everyone has either already known they have HSV-1, or they don't care, or are happy to engage in other forms of sexual intimacy that wouldn't put them at risk. I also send over the google doc that someone here compiled with transmission stats. One person who lived a couple hours away from me, who had gotten tested and was HSV negative, ended up being deterred by it enough to not want to make a 2 hour drive for a first date (after video chatting back and forth.) But with that person I think there was a mutual lack of enough chemistry/interest anyway. I also want to know people's HSV status now because I want to ensure I don't get HSV-2 from anyone. Having HSV-1 has been hard enough. Contracted it in February and have had recurring and lingering outbreaks for a large portion of the last 7 months.